tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post5977272077499015213..comments2009-10-23T06:04:59.241-05:00SOLOMONSYDELLEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17564768670896215900noreply@blogger.comBlogger55125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-65172177965782704762009-10-23T06:04:59.241-05:002009-10-23T06:04:59.241-05:00I completely agree with u SSL. Everything else I&#39;d like to say has already been said. Me myself is planning to stay fly after I have kids ( i know thats easier said than done) but like you said, taking care of one self is very important whether ur a man or a woman. And you bet im telling my hubby the same. Im telling him to lay off the beer already :-D lolAdaezehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18005977710433435845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-46622751569333923432009-10-23T00:01:15.168-05:002009-10-23T00:01:15.168-05:00Men should have conversations with their woman if he feel as if she has let herself go. When, for example, some women gain weight during and after pregnacy, i know they can&#39;t help it, but sometimes it&#39;s not a good look and the woman often never try to lose the weight. If the man loves her, he&#39;ll accept her no matter what though.The Misseshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14627271733510801915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-50305879678148735452009-10-22T15:50:05.260-05:002009-10-22T15:50:05.260-05:00No beef here too.<br />But why equate Faithfulness to Fat?<br /><br />So what if men are about what they see?<br />If we&#39;re skinny you&#39;ll still cheat anyway, so what&#39;s the point?<br /><br />I don&#39;t support being over weight.<br />But he&#39;s reasoning just doesn&#39;t cut it!~Sirius~http://www.blogger.com/profile/14771610618431377950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-40029532714838624112009-10-22T06:58:57.131-05:002009-10-22T06:58:57.131-05:00Like I said earlier, it&#39;s the HARD TRUTH that most women let themselves go after marriage. <br /><br />If you are married and you have stopped looking your best then it will be obvious to anyone with eyes. Just look at your wedding day photos and compare with what you see in the mirror today.<br /><br />But God forbid a man with warm blood running through his veins should point this out to us women. We don&#39;t like to hear the truth, so we only hear what we assume the man is saying.<br /><br />Thank you Chi-Chi for pointing out that the guy did NOT actually say he will go out and cheat on his wife. He is simply stating that an unattractive wife at home makes it harder for him to be faithful, when he sees fabulous-looking ladies outside everywhere.<br /><br />He is facing temptation. Damn it ladies, he is only human! <br /><br />Wives, get your act together and keep looking fabulous after you get that wedding ring!Kikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05204600242528997903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-59059453339733192472009-10-22T04:45:32.172-05:002009-10-22T04:45:32.172-05:00eemmm....i&#39;m not on Twitter o. Is there a Tigeress on twitter?Tigeresshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17004116586549466667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-83494162761544025192009-10-21T23:45:24.444-05:002009-10-21T23:45:24.444-05:00Ok the man needs to HUSH up, as in a woman&#39;s weight in no way ties to a man being faithful. I get his drift but seriously?<br />Thing is, even in regular relationships it seems to be then BOTH parties seem to let go...probably get too comfy and all so I don&#39;t even think that it&#39;s just a woman thing. With that said, I will try to keep it hot and sexy for the hubby but after popping kiddies, if I do not look like I did 10 years ago I had better not catch his ass cheating or na boiling hot water wey I go pour on his kini. LMAOOriginal Mgbekehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11409561613382179987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-24996033946196419592009-10-21T18:17:30.051-05:002009-10-21T18:17:30.051-05:00I didn&#39;t read all the comments but I wanted to say to Kike that your comment was spot on. It&#39;s very true. When we are single women, all our energy and time is focused on us. When married with children and a household to run, it&#39;s so easy to devote all our energy and time to those things that there&#39;s nothing left for ourselves. But truly loving yourself means that you put yourself first no matter what. You take care of yourself. Honestly, you never know what could happen. That marriage you take for granted could end through death or something else. You&#39;d be back on the market just like that. How will you fare if you look tired, worn down, unattractive, frumpy? We should all be willing to acknowledge that for many women, having children significantly changes their bodies. But that doesn&#39;t mean a woman can&#39;t look her best even if the stomach is not quite as flat as it used to be and there a few more stretch marks. The most important part is making a sincere effort to keep those physical things that your husband was attracted to you for in the first place in good repair. And then, also, there must be an agreement too. While you are sweating working out, spending hours getting hair, nails and eyebrows done (if that&#39;s your thing), he&#39;s taking care of things at home (kids, housework, etc) and shelling out the money to get these things done in the first place (either through paying for childcare or paying for the gym, hairstylist, etc). It&#39;s give and take, give and take as long as everyone is clear on expectations and has agreed to meet them. <br /><br />And I don&#39;t think the author was looking for an excuse to cheat per se . . . just saying that he wants to keep his eyes at home but there&#39;s nothing much to look at. I just hope he&#39;s expressed this as honestly (and tactfully) to his wife.Chi-Chi, The Original Wombmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08635150040219983526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-30470252460329772102009-10-21T13:15:12.127-05:002009-10-21T13:15:12.127-05:00SSD! thanx for caring enough to check on me, I reaally appreciate it. i am good, just not been motivated to write is all.<br /><br />very good post here, u were much kinder to nigerian married man than i would&#39;ve been if i had responded...lol.<br /><br />u are a runner? really? professional?Smaragdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12986342471593235987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-56704179391717902192009-10-21T12:04:01.247-05:002009-10-21T12:04:01.247-05:00Is it also ok for a woman to go on a cheating spree because her husband who had a six pack before they got married now looks perpertually pregnant?<br />I think it&#39;s a bit dumb to make a woman&#39;s weight an excuse for cheating.<br />Don&#39;t get me wrong, i&#39;m not for losing all the sexy hotness, my husband and i go to the gym together ...listen man, you gotta support your wife if you want her to lose weight...and discuss your expectations clearly..<br />Woman, don&#39;t let yourself go just because you have a man to call your own and you now have kids, i don&#39;t have any yet but when i do, i shall be a sexy hot mama still! lol<br />Silly excuse for cheating!Writefreakhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03457464940195376970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-1565677371754851892009-10-21T07:48:56.551-05:002009-10-21T07:48:56.551-05:00I totally agree with you that citing a spouse&#39;s size as justification for being unfaithful is absurd. I wonder if the logic swings both ways. I also agree cheating is a testament to lack of restraint.<br /><br />However, let us not deny that some men are indeed absurd. Especially the shallow over-excitable ones. Staying sexy helps curb their enthusiasm o! While for some, no amount of being fit matters as they just can&#39;t breathe without something fresh off the assembly line every now and then. Those ones justify themselves with a billion reasons in addition to spouse being overweight. It is a horrible dirty truth.<br /><br />Its very ridiculous and that&#39;s why I always tell my female friends to know their man before entering the ring. There is no harm in lookery, but If his eye can&#39;t stay one place, danger! If you still jump in regardless, better keep fit &amp; hope for the best.Enochhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01123477530241681915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-74816734410853117462009-10-20T14:28:29.062-05:002009-10-20T14:28:29.062-05:00i agree with you SSD...some men take this weight thing so serious that they do not touch on other aspect of their marriage...this post says it allNalahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13012884526832306393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-42895563055639215732009-10-20T13:35:24.230-05:002009-10-20T13:35:24.230-05:00i respect woman who care enough to exercise and diet just to be fit for their husbands, to me, that is not a bad idea at all. if a husband likes, and marries a slim wife, i think the wife should try to remain slim if it&#39;s really important to her husband.<br /><br />however,i have no respect for men who think a slim woman is the best thing since... whatever. i think those men are shallow. a man doesn&#39;t cheat on his wife cuz she is fat, that is just a lame excuse to make his wife share the guilt of his infidelity. Men also cheat on very slim, beautiful ladies. some men just like to behave like dogs and give silly excuses like &#39;my wife is fat&#39;. what is that?<br /><br />i have seen men who are addicted to their really fat wives, and others who are faithful to slim wives. those are the men. the rest are just weak excuses for men. weaker are the ones who claim to cheat cuz their wives are fat. in the next 100yrs when being fat would be like the cool thing to do, you would see those weak excuses for men who claim to cheat cuz their wives are thin.<br /><br />nonetheless, if a man says he likes a slim wife, i think the wife shouldn&#39;t punish him by not watching her weight. but to say it is the reason for cheating is just weak, and really lameHYAWhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410209040818503094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-26263880606487839002009-10-20T11:33:36.583-05:002009-10-20T11:33:36.583-05:00First of all, most nigerian men have potbellies. Those that don&#39;t, will. End of story. Abeg women focus on your health and not your weight.lucidlilithhttp://lucidlilith.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-48013630155802051432009-10-20T09:30:25.485-05:002009-10-20T09:30:25.485-05:00I think we are getting something wrong here,are we suppose to look good,trim and presentable bcos of our men alone.My answer is capital NO,do it for yourself bcos you want to and not just to get your man attention.It does something to your self confidence.<br /><br />Whether you are slim or fat,any man that want to cheat will cheat.You can can never understand men,this same men that complain will list out the dos and dont of dressing to their wife and tell them stories on how they should dress their status!funnily,my husband complains has always been why do you always like to look like a babe and am always like do i have to pretend am your mother when am just 40 and will complement other people&#39;s wife o.Nijawifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02236225288097880343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-75285635554812231232009-10-20T08:14:29.722-05:002009-10-20T08:14:29.722-05:00I couldn&#39;t have said things better than u did. <br /><br />Your wife&#39;s looks has nothing to do with cheating. Isn&#39;t marriage about helping each other/loving/bla bla<br /><br />If a man does not like how his wife looks, I would think he&#39;d sign her up @ planetfitness and help her out. Convey his message without hurting the wife&#39;s feelings...I think it&#39;s daft to think a woman would look the same before and after birth.Olamildhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15408417396722620857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-1389131911848433742009-10-20T06:34:46.428-05:002009-10-20T06:34:46.428-05:00It&#39;s just absolutely lame to justify unfaithfulness by blaming the woman&#39;s weight gain. Total bollocks.<br /><br />That said, it&#39;s important to know what you like and don&#39;t like, watch out for those traits in ur partner. <br /><br />Before one picks a spouse, you know what things they pay attention to. A woman (skinny or not) who didn&#39;t bother about her weight before you wifed her, shouldn&#39;t be expected to do so after you marry her. So, I think each person gets a glimpse of where they&#39;re going before they get there. <br /><br />Haven&#39;t you seen newly married men who suddenly expanded beyond recognition, a la wifey&#39;s good cooking? If the guy wasn&#39;t particular about keeping in shape before he got married, he&#39;ll let himself go too! <br /><br />I&#39;ve been trying to lose weight myself, and I know that it&#39;s not the easiest thing to do. Every woman doesn&#39;t need to be skinny, but every woman needs to be healthy.ishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06112377307620987180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-74648615436775877662009-10-20T06:08:22.224-05:002009-10-20T06:08:22.224-05:00So much has been said already and I agree totally.<br /><br />If you were &#39;hot&#39; before you got married, why stop?<br /><br />If you got &#39;fat&#39; after having a few kids, do your best to stay in shape and husbands, do your best to support the lady! <br /><br />She carried those babies, ate for two, labored, gave birth, breast-fed....cut her some slack will you and support her! Don&#39;t go cheating just because she is no longer as hot as he used to be. Where&#39;s the love huh?<br /><br />The way, I see it, it takes two to make a marriage work.Enkayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09513593787004243051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-59899100909924965582009-10-20T06:00:02.277-05:002009-10-20T06:00:02.277-05:00Very nicely written...I could not agree more....that your wife has gained weight is such a lame excuse for cheating...do betterjoiceehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16618958439283233753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-65592527121326253782009-10-20T04:19:49.325-05:002009-10-20T04:19:49.325-05:00Ok like you said, the guy was honest enough to say what most Nigerian men think. Truth be told Nigerian men I&#39;ve been known to cheat on the hottest of girls and this is another sick excuse to carry on with their ways. Cheating is engrained into the psyche of the average Nigerian man but I wonder why they still make excuses for it. There&#39;s just no need for that. We know most men will cheat. we have accepted that, please just dont make us feel worse that we already feel.<br /><br />As for Nigerian women and post pregnancy weight, I think the issue goes far beyond being healthy or unhealthy. Back in the days fat was attractive so I guess most women still think the &#39;real Nigerian men&#39; still prefers ample flesh. Unfortunately our men are now Europeanise so women must get with the program. Before a woman gets married she does her best to look good so why stop in marriage. One of the things we must learn as women is that our men are visually driven. So as much as I hate to say this we women must stay in shape and in good health as much for ourselves and for our men. There&#39;s no guarantee it&#39;s going to stop your man from straying but at least you&#39;ve done your bit.Parakeethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14034748785098588120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-65982891014479098282009-10-20T04:12:38.401-05:002009-10-20T04:12:38.401-05:00...that isn&#39;t and shouldn&#39;t be used as an excuse to justify straying eyes.<br /><br />There are women who are Plus-sized before marriage or childbirth and there are also men who love them whole heartedly..<br /><br />I also think the distance married women cover in a day racing after kids, cooking, cleaning, picking up his clothes, washing et al is exercise enough.:-)Rosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12432017517711491089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-69136681336475641602009-10-20T03:44:31.357-05:002009-10-20T03:44:31.357-05:00It is not an excuse to be unfaitful but it goes both ways!<br />Ladies would you like it if your man/bobo/hubby piled on the pounds?<br />I think most men are just as sensitive about their weight too..even though they try to cover up their insecurities with gra gra..<br /><br />Try your best to preserve the sexy..Chibuchihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07460038382041289853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-37843535773846819992009-10-19T21:28:30.750-05:002009-10-19T21:28:30.750-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.NoLimithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03879937849991946112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-74811812289205170472009-10-19T21:28:25.820-05:002009-10-19T21:28:25.820-05:00Unfaithfulness shows disrespect and lack of discipline.<br />I learnt that marriage goes beyond looks...and just because the woman let her self go does not give a man the license to cheat! Disgusting idea if you ask me!!!<br />Personally,I wish all wives with cheating husband will castrate them!!!...but that sounds to harsh...so I guess mercy prevails!!!:-)NoLimithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03879937849991946112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-46707101252016433152009-10-19T20:51:23.755-05:002009-10-19T20:51:23.755-05:00well....I don&#39;t know. <br />I am FAT. Probably always would be. I Dress competently well and I don&#39;t have problems with Men finding me attractive. I really cannot be bothered jare. I just think I have better things to do with my time. <br />If me staying thin is a big factor in his attraction to me, and his attraction is a prerequisite for faithfulness and I agree to this IDIOCY before marriage then he has the right to demand this. <br />Otherwise, Nigga please. <br /><br /> If I gain more weight or not, if I fall short or not, its my husband&#39;s responsibility to commit to our marriage. Marriage is bigger than both party&#39;s wants and needs. Once you commit then there is no going back even if I get as big as gargantuan and even if his ass gets broke, stupid, or insane. <br /><br />And since when is it my responsibility to make sure u find me attractive. Find a way to find me attractive hieffer.Temitehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11331041701406138957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1344503392644402073.post-81013211915303573302009-10-19T20:22:07.302-05:002009-10-19T20:22:07.302-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Temitehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11331041701406138957noreply@blogger.com