Monday, January 31, 2011


UPDATE: I have tried to redo the pics for this post. Unfortunately, I am unable to watermark them. If anyone can suggest a good site where I can do that for free, I would appreciate it greatly.

Yes, folks. I am becoming my mother. And I have picked up her shoe habit.

I am not as bad as she was though. I do not have shoes in every room of my house and thus, I do not have to wake my children up as she woke me while trying on shoes to match her outfit and mood. =)

But, I must confess that I cannot walk into my walk in closet. It was never big enough but now? My shoes greet me as I step in and I have to walk carefully around them to access clothes. *sigh*

My daughter loves the closet of course! She tries on shoes and has informed me that there are specific shoes she must inherit. Some other ones I am free to give away apparently.

People, I bought a pair of shoes EVERY MONTH in 2010!


Yes, I got deals on them (husband says I scare him with how "precise" of a bargain shopper I am), but still!

I don't know what to do.

I have put a self-imposed ban on shoe shopping. But to enforce it, I won't even drive by some of my favorite stores/malls. If I can confess, I'd love to get up right now, get into the car and drive over to the Annapolis area and hit up a mall or two. I swear I'd walk away with only shoes. Or bags. Or dresses. Or jewelry.

Okay, okay, okay. I have a little bit of an addiction, don't I?


Here are some of my shoes from 2010. I can't find a pair of cute DV by Dolce Vita sandals I own. I had them on in Puerto Rico and I'm sure I brought them home with me, but here's a pic of what they look like:
DV For Dolce Vita Artiste T-Bar Flat Sandal Image
And, here are the rest...


Sunday, January 23, 2011


They say that every woman will eventually be just like her mother. For many women that is a compliment and we are thankful for it. I share that enthusiasm, but only partially.

Don't get me wrong, I LOVE my moms. She is kind, super intelligent and can cook most people under the table. As in, you pick up your plate and lick the remnants with precision. Yes indeedy, Shine Shine sabi cook well, well.

But, sadly, there is one habit of hers I do not want to pick up.


Growing up, Shine Shine had shoes in every room of the house.

Did you read what I wrote? I wrote that my mother had shoes in EVERY SINGLE ROOM in the house. There were 4 rooms and her shoes were in the closets of each single room.

That might not have been a problem, but for the fact that every morning she would go into closets trying to figure out which shoes to wear.

It was quite infuriating, especially during holidays when I was home from school and trying to sleep for as long as possible. She would walk into my room, turn the light on, fling open MY closets, put shoes on and then model in front of the mirror until she found the perfect pair.  And this happened almost every morning!

But that wasn't all. She would walk over to my vanity, pick a perfume that fit her mood and spritz away, filling my nostrils with perfume early in the morning.

Oh, and did I mention that Shine Shine did this while humming one Christian hymn or another?

What did I do during all this?

Not a damn thing! I would simply cover my head and let it be. I would then pass out once she left the room.

But, can you feel my pain? The pain of having a mother who loved shoes so much?


All those missed minutes of sleep.....

The mornings I awoke startled by nostrils burning from one perfume or another.....

Okay, I'm exaggerating. But it was annoying at the time and for years, I was cautious about buying too many shoes. I think it was because in my mind, having plenty shoes had a negative connotation. So, I was shocked when early in our relationship my now-husband made a sly remark about the number of shoes I had. I chastised him quickly and he's never made that mistake again hehehe.

It did make me nervous, however. I became worried that I was accumulating too many shoes.

The end result? I held back on shoe buying for almost two and a half years!

But, it seems that no amount of scarring from my mom's shoe habit, comments from my husband or even my own personal concerns have stopped me from becoming my mother...



Wednesday, January 19, 2011


I am a big fan of the Real Housewives series of reality shows. Real Houseweives of Orange County, Real Housewives of Atlanta, Real Housewives of New York, Real Housewives of New Jersey, Real Housewives of DC and my favorite, Real Housewives of Beverly Hills (hi, Jiggy!). When any of these shows come on, my husband quietly bids me adieu and leaves me to my guilty pleasure, heehee.

Stacie Turner is on the Real Housewives of DC and during the first season, she explained her story about being put up for adoption by her white mother. Upon finding her birth mother, she also discovered that her father was an Igbo man and wanted to find him.

For the 'unconverted', Stacie's white mother was in the Peace Corps in Nigeria and obviously had a relationship with Stacie's father. The product was a black child that she felt compelled to give away. Now, people can say what they want, but I for one, do not have the heart to judge the lady on those grounds. Having a child outside of wedlock, is never a joke and having a black child must have created a serious difficulty for the lady given the times she lived in.

But, when this lady was reunited with Stacie, she refused to tell her husband and children about her black  daughter. My opinion, hiding a child from his/her family is never a good move. Nope, no way. And then, Stacie's mother refused to give her the information she needed to find her blood father! Maybe it's very Nigerian of me, but every child deserves to know where they come from. Nigerian culture demands it in fact.

Anyway, my girlfriends and I talked about this woman, die! We all hoped she would find her family. She got some help from the Nigerian Embassy and at the time I worried that they were setting themselves up for failure. After all, Nigeria is a large country and I was nervous that the embassy would have to open a desk to find Nigerians for people. That would be a disaster. Anyway, the embassy came through for her and it looks like Stacie had a Nigerian family reunion. It appears that her family is from Amaocha Afara in Mbaitoli, Imo State and from the looks of the pictures, she enjoyed Nigeria and meeting her blood relatives.


Can I say I am also extremely pleased that she travelled with a Nigerian air carrier, Arik Air (which probably gave her and her family/friends free tickets and if they didn't then shame on them because they just got free advertising)


And even her Nigerian-based Delta Sigma Theta sisters showed her some love.

Now, I'm not going to lie, I have to just say what I'm feeling right now. I desperately hope and pray that this woman's family members are not like some family members that most Nigerians are familiar with. I remain amazed at the stories of people trying to take advantage of their relatives and use them without any regard to the fact that blood is thicker than water. I know not every Nigerian family is like this, and anyone that feels that way is ignorant, but, who understands what I'm talking about. If I could share half the stories I have heard? My own mother was swindled by her 'favorite' cousin! To the tune of at least a million Naira. 

That being said, I am happy Stacie found the missing link, her blood relatives. I cannot imagine what it must have been like, given that she wanted to know who she was and where she came from. And, I can't wait for this aspect of her life to be featured on the show next season.

Sidenote: Hmm, there's a TTTEC question that actually relates to this matter. I think I will put it before the TTTEC crew but not this week. So, there will be a TTTEC question from me on Friday the 28th of January. Swing by on Monday the 24th for a normal post, however. It's about Shine Shine and I...

Saturday, January 15, 2011


Wow, 2010 went by in a flash and already, 2011 is here and established. Each day seems to pass in a blink of an eye and I can't believe it.

Anyway, how is everyone doing? Yes, I do not blog as frequently as I used to but, I am here. Sometimes folks see me at Other times, I am on Twitter (well, a lot of the time) and on Facebook. I chat with bloggers from time to time, but I swear, it seems like there are not enough hours in the day anymore.


So how have you guys been? I hope you are all in good health and that your families and friends are the same.

The kids are up to their usual shenanigans.

The Enforcer (TE) continues to be bossy but her brothers love it. She has been Student of the Month, Student of the Week many times at her school and we are SUPER proud of her. The girl is in the 1st grade but is reading at 5th grade level and she qualified for a gifted program in our region. Yup, mama hen is clucking away in pride, but I am especially thankful for the blessing that is my first child. =)

The King (TK) continues to monitor my spending, lol! His father couldn't be more proud. He has taken on more responsibility and makes sure everyone in the house gets along. He went through a phase were he was a little rude, but I just enacted Operation Mommy Does Not Play (OMDNP) and that brought an end to it. *wink* He's reading and doing very well at math (we home school him) and well, overall, no complaints, just gratitude.

And, Bomboy. Well, what can I not say about the famous little boy? Okay, he's bigger but still skinny. He knows so many words now that I have to sit and listen to him for long stretches at a time. Not complaining, though. And he asks so many questions at once! My goodness! I though TE was talkative but Bomboy is on track to take the crown! He and I had a little bit of a rough patch. But, again, OMDNP did the trick. Yes, he continues to flirt with women, but, he's sly about it. So he runs up to ladies, gives them hugs and kisses. It always works. Hmm, not sure if that is slicker that telling women "You're so beautiful" but so far, so good.

Husband is fine as well and we all went to Dominica in December for some well-deserved rest and relaxation. I have video and pics but have been busy. Will ave to upload everything soonest. I introduced my in-laws to jollof rice, indomie noodles and serious Nigerianisms. You should hear them trying to talk like a Nigerian. Hilarious!!!! They can't wait to visit Naija.

What else has been going on over here? Ooh, I'm trying to exorcise myself of a show habit. I think I will have to consult my computer friends for help with that. Nothing like free therapy, shebi? heehee.

Okay, I have to stop now. Plenty of work to do. Because I have no shame about things, I want to ask those inclined to pray to offer up some prayers for me that I will complete a few projects on time this year. I can't let another year pass without doing those things that must be done and shall not be mentioned. lol!

I hope you are all well and that your new year is blessed and remains so.

See you around!