Hey Easier crew, today's installment is a bit of a long read. I cleaned it up and shortened it as best I could so please, read and offer suggestions. Thank you so much.
*********************
My cousin Bola is the most dramatic and nosey girl I know. She is an only child whose mother struggled to have her and so spoiled her rotten. I think that is one of the reasons why she has a sense of entitlement and never feels that anything is her fault.
Bola has been dating Tom, off and on, for over 4 and a half years. Tom is a nice hardworking guy that I have known since secondary school in Naija. In fact, he met Bola at a houseparty I had. For that reason, I tend to be the one they both come to when they have arguments, fights, temporary break ups etc.
The reason why I am writing you is because about 5 months ago, Bola went through Tom's cell phone and found some text messages from his ex-girlfriend, Melissa. Now, I know my cousin is dramatic, but even I can admit that Melissa is a top-grade %!%@#! She hates Bola and is always sending Tom suggestive texts. Bola and Tom have broken up over this girl many times because Bola wants o Tom to end all contact with her. He refuses to have her dictate who his friends should be especially since she doesn't mind him being friends with his other exes, just Melissa.
While they were arguing over the text from Melissa, Bola got up and left and they didn't speak to each other for the rest of the day. Bola then decided to make Tom jealous and so she called one of her own exes Ibrahim. Now, let me explain about Ibrahim. He cheated on Bola several times during their 2 year relationship and if not for the fact that he dumped her, she probably would still be with him. Also, Ibrahim once insulted Tom at a Nigerian party saying Tom was poor and that he didn't know why Bola would be with him. This caused a huge fight that got most of the Nigerians there thrown out of the club. As you can understand, Tom can't stand Ibrahim and thinks the guy is pompous.
Anyway, Bola went out with Ibrahim, despite my counseling against it. And, the next day, she told me that he apologized for everything he had put her through. He told her he loved her and didn't want anyone else but her. One thing led to another and they had sex. Of course, Ibrahim meant nothing of it, he just wanted to prove to himself and others he could still sleep with her and the next day, didn't even pick up her calls.
Less than a week later Tom and her got back together and within 2 months after their reconciliation, she discovered she was pregnant. She told Tom who was ecstatic and proposed. He has started the whole 'wine carrying' process and her family is running around buying goats and kola nut like mad people. I don't know why, but all of a sudden, Bola feels she should tell Tom that the baby might not be his. She does not believe that he will leave her because she believes that it was his fault she slipped and fell on another man's peen! That is what she told me! She blames Tom for making her jealous and not ending his friendship with Melissa as she had warned him to.
Bola and Tom's family are gearing up to throw the wedding of all weddings and with all this secret wahala, I have warned Melissa that things will explode in her face. Plus she is ignoring the fact that if Tom ever decides to start talking about their one-night stand things will be over for her. I don't know how to get this girl to understand that there will be severe consequences not just for her, but for the families if Tom does not see this as his fault as she expects him to.
I really just needed to vent and need to know what if anything I can do to make Bola realize that the world does not revolve around her.
**********************
Additional Info: I actually got to have a Skype chat with both Lara (the cousin) and Bola. Bola is convinced that there will be no consequences and even wants to drag Lara into the matter further by demanding that Lara be in the room when she tells Tom the truth. I have told Lara (and did so with Bola being present on Skype) to get out of this situation. But something tells me the cousin-bond might cause a different result. Anyway, over to you to react, counsel and/or whatever it is you want to do.
Thanks again.
0 Easier Comments. Add Yours!:
Post a Comment