As promised, here is an update to TTTEC: Sister-In-Law Trouble.
For those that recall Ola (not her real name) was in a bind over what steps to take regarding her younger brother's wedding. Her brother, Taiye, informed her that his fiance had cheated on him numerous times and he was unsure about whether or not there would be a wedding. Taiye eventually decided to go through with the wedding but in the process of reconciling with his wife-to-be, Glory, he told her that Ola did not like her. The result was that Glory banned Ola from the wedding. Taiye and Ola's mom sensed something was wrong and sought to learn what was going on and why Ola was no longer as active in the wedding preparations.
Taiye and Ola's mom now knows that Ola was banned from the wedding. How did she find out? Simple. Although Ola was avoiding her mother for fear of telling her more than she should (please read original post to understand why), Ola's husband was not as tight lipped. In a conversation with his father in law, he let it slip that Ola would not be attending the wedding. Thinking that Ola had already discussed the matter with her mother (she had not), he explained to Baba Taiye that Taiye and Glory were having problems. Ola's father in turn shared his fears with his wife who showed up at her daughter's house to get direct information.
For those of you who are well-versed in the ways of dramatic Nigerian mothers, it will be no surprise that Mama Taiye did not even wait to consult Taiye before calling her soon-to-be in laws and informing them that her family would no longer be adding their daughter. Now, there is tension between families, Taiye will not speak to Ola as he feels betrayed, Ola's husband feels stupid for making a mistake and Ola feels horrible.
MY HUMBLE OPINION
I strongly suggested that Ola not tell her mother. She took my advice but unfortunately, what was meant to happen happened. Her mother was likely going to find out some way or another as she was apparently digging via her own sources to understand why Ola was no working on the aso ebis for the wedding. That being said, it is unfortunate that her mother went above everyone's head to cancel the wedding. Personally, I think people are allowed to make their own mistakes, and based on what I was told, Taiye knew very well the sort of woman Glory was. Despite that, he still wanted to marry her. I think Mama Taiye should have let it be. I know many of you disagree with my stance which is fine, but ultimately, I have learned that you cannot force anyone to make the 'right' decision. And even if you manage that, they will simply hate you for it in the end and possibly make other choices that would be worse.
I think this matter is only going to drive Taiye closer to Glory and give her ammunition to use against his family, further driving a wedge between him and his loved ones. Ola heard that Taiye is going to marry her even without his family's blessing. Her mom has already sworn up and down that if he dares marry her, she will have his head. Hmm, I just don't know if all that wahala is worth it, and I feel for everyone involved. I am thankful, however, that I do not have to deal with these problems personally.
OLA STILL NEEDS HELP
Ola is trying to figure out what she can do to salvage the situation. She has begged her mother to reconsider, but things are too far gone for that, it seems. She reached out to her brother who refuses to respond. She sent an email message to Glory and got a profanity laced voice mail in response. Well, please share your thoughts and any good suggestions. The babe is stressed out and the wedding is technically less than 2 months away. Rumors are flying around town, people are calling Ola to order their aso ebi and well, from what she tells me, it just is not pretty.
Thanks so much for taking the time to read this update, folks. I hope you are all well and wish you a wonderful weekend.