Hey everyone. Today's TTTEC installment was intended for last Friday, but I was instructed to hold off for a week. Hence, you only get to chime in on this problem today.
Okay, read on, people...
My younger brother Taiye and I are ten years apart. His twin, Kehinde, died when they were 12 and that tragedy brought Taiye and I very close. Despite all my efforts and advice, Taiye has consistently chased and dated the wrong type of women. And, now, he is about to marry a woman that he has no business being with.
He met Glory at a wedding when he came home for Christmas 2 years ago. He fell head over heels for her immediately and when he asked my opinion I made sure to give it. I told him about Glory's reputation. She is a former UNILAG girl who somehow manages to spend all her time in Abuja and knows many members of the National Assembly. Married women in Lagos, myself included, know of her and do everything we can to keep our spouses as far from her as possible. I told this to Taiye, but somehow, Glory convinced him that people were just jealous of her and creating stories. Within 8 months of long distance dating (Taiye likes in the UK), Taiye told me that he was going to ask for her hand in marriage. At that point, I simply asked him if he was sure that she was the one to marry and he said yes. So, I did everything I could to organize the 'knocking' and the eventual traditional ceremony. It required my spending a lot of time visiting her family in Abeokuta where her family lives.
It is now 3 months to the wedding and certain things have surfaced. Taiye called me from the UK in the middle of the night telling me that Glory had cheated on him multiple times. He again asked me what he should do. I told him to think hard and pray about whether he could stay married to someone he does not trust. He told me he was not sure and after we talked for some time I thought he would call off the wedding. Instead, I got a rude email from Glory informing me that she did not want me to attend 'her' wedding. It took 3 days for me to reach my brother who informed me that he told her I didn't like her and that that is why she doesn't want me at the wedding.
Now, my mother is asking me why I have not sent out messages about the aso-ebi. But, I promised Taiye much earlier that I would not tell our parents about all the wahala in his relationship. If I tell my mother anything, the story will unravel because momsy has been suspicious of Glory for a long time and if she gets even a hint that something is wrong she will chase it down and it will only complicate things.
I honestly don't mind going to the wedding, really. I don't respect Glory and am fine not being there. But now, Taiye is begging me to come, my mother suspects something is wrong and I can't keep avoiding her. I feel that I am in a tough position and do not know what to do.