I received a Friend Request some time ago and I just don't know what to do.
You guys already know that my relationship with Facebook is very touch and go. From the random guy telling me he can't wait to be in my arms to the other lunatic that sent me the silliest little message. These, plus the other things I have heard happen to other people makes me wary of the wonderful world of Facebook.
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And now, my mom is on it. Kai! What am I going to do? I worry that she will out me on Facebook. Not on purpose but by mistake. It has actually happened a couple of times, but I just love my anonymity and well, I don't want to lose it just yet. I think. Also, if she is my Facebook friend, then I might have to not talk about her anymore on my blog, heehee.
I am stalling on adding her. That isn't hard because when I'm on Facebook, I'm only there for a couple minutes at a time. In fact I didn't realize I had as many friend requests as I have until, well, 5 minutes ago. My bad, people.
Okay, okay, okay. I wonder how much longer I can stall. Geez, I can imagine my mom putting baby pics of me on FB. Good God, there's that picture of me at 2 with a heineken bottle to my lips. Don't worry, it was empty, but it's a little funny. Won't be good for my serious political commentator/cooky mom image. Or would it? Hmmm.
Come on, folks. How many of you have parents on Facebook? Are you friends with them? If so, how does it affect your FB life?
Help!!!!
BTW: Next week is 'Book Review Week' and I will be featuring some books. However, have you got a book you think should be featured? Especially one from a Nigerian or African author? Do let me know. Thanks!
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My parents are not on fb but my aunties and great aunt are.They're 65,71 and 92! Although my mum loves fb wich she choose to call "spacebook".I tend to censor what goes on my wall but not all the time. The one that trips me most is my 71 year old auntie who is a bit of a techie. She use a blackberry (even before some of us in
the family) and a mac book(I haven't even got one).It's nice though bu scary at thesame time
You're in trouble oh! You won't be able to block Mom too long! And she WILL put up baby pictures! It's just a Mom thing to do! My own mother isnt on Facebook, and she hates all that kind of stuff.
If I had a picture of my baby sipping Heineken I surely would put it up because it would be so cute!
As for my son, he doesn't mind if Im on facebook, but I'll see how he feels when i put up some baby pictures!
My own friend just got on, and guess what? She put up her son's baby pictures! Ha HA!
As for my book suggestion, of course, Chinua Achebe's Things fall apart. I havent read Chimamanda's books yet. Next on my agenda.
Hello,
The problem is not so much that your mum is on Facebook but that what are you sharing with Friends and Friends of friends that you think your mum cannot see.
This is the issue with Facebook and privacy, a topic I have covered many times in my blog.
You probably need to make us of lists and quarantine your information in terms of what should be seen by Everyone, Friends, Friends of friends and Only you.
My parents have access to my blogs and I am sure they have read things they have not yet been able to raise with me - their problem, not mine.
You have your life to live, if they decide to be inquisitive, the consequences are there for them to experience as long as you are comfortable in your own skin and Facebook persona.
Regards,
Akin
My mum is on facebook too, it aint funny at all, infact she's one of the reasons, i opted out of facebook. sometimes last week she asked for my sis password on facebook... she claims she wants to view pictures of cousins and family members....lmao!!! since she does not have them on her profile...I have told her time and time again, to search for them and request they add her as friends that way she sees all d pictures in the world.
and trust me she's being scanning pictures to put up not funny at all
lolz...mama on fb. No thanks.
It's lyk an invasion of privacy..
Yeah! I know how you feel... I recently received a friend request from my Mum, and I was shocked! Mummy on facebook too! Na wa o! When I asked her she said "I can't be left out!" Can you beat that? I even have Aunties and Uncles who are grand parents) on facebook! LOL!
Absolutely no way!!!Block*Block*Block!!!LOL!!!!
I'm with Omotade, total invasion of privacy!
Thank God, my mum hates such stuffs, mama on fb, invasion of privacy, embarrasement...no no...but you can not hde from her for long
Ha ha ha ha ha ha!!! dont envy u guys at all.
my mum has no idea of how to operate a computer talkless of facebook or my blog. aint i just blessed?!
pop on the other hand might discover facebook and i shall NOT accept his friendship. his friend added me, i ignored, can i be questioned, hell no!
book review: Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe, Chimamanda Adichie's Half of a Yellow Sun and That thing around your Neck, Abidemi Sanusi's Kemi's Journal.... Will come up with others
Got a request this morning from my dictator like uncle i've never seen smile this morning to add him on FB to join the aunties, uncles already on the list.
Simple solution. put them all in a group, increase the privacy settings surrounding that group... access to wall... access to photos of you... your posts etc and make sure nobody can tag you without confirmation.
Saludos
M
of the cerberus.
Well hurry up and add her already....can't wait to see those baby pics,hehe. JK
Well @cerberus has said it all really! Tighten your privacy settings on FB that's all.
lol...I don't envy u @ all...n no, I don't have any advice for u either...u figure this one out urself...hahaha!
LOOOL... THE HORROR!!! My mum attempted a similar move but thank God she didn't follow through. My dad is on fb as well but I told him point blank that I will not add him. Such a thing was never meant to be... lol.
Mama on fb! This mama knows what's up.
I've only just got my Mum to text! For me it's Uncles and Aunties (hmmm). Put them all in group, and limit access for that group. Job done :)
HECK NO!!!!!! adding my parents, uncles n aunts is a major NO-NO...lol...the tot alone is insanely hilarious for me
lmao, its not as bad as mine tho, A few of my mums siblings joined FB, and I had a "In A Relationship with Damilola Aleko" and all of a sudden she was calling all my relatives in conference call to tell them Zena is now a Lesbian ooh!
Can u imagine? I have 2 profiles now, my normal one and the family one for peole like that articular Aunt,
Oh! and books, what about Chimamanda's last book, The Thing around your neck or Uwem Akpan's Say you're one of them
Book Review: A Heart to Mend by Myne Whitman.
My mum is on facebook... she doesn't check her account often...
My parents are on facebook! They added me i rejected! They added me again.. I obliged after they bugged me. I put them on limited profile! I am now praying they dont find twitter!!!
LMHO! i just can't wait to see the baby pix o! goodluck o!
dont accept her friendship if u r not comfy with it, and if it will make u less free to say what u want on ur page. explain to her. she will understand
lol I love my anonymity tooo so i can undertsand where you're coming from. If my parents were on facebook i'd reject them straight...or block them from seeing certain aspects of my profile honestly. lol but I have aunts and uncles on facebook...i ignore them. hehe goodluck and update us. But it'd be nice to see that pic,lol u started young haha. just kidding lol
I feel u.....when my mum joined and found me, i gave her limited profile..dont want no mama commenting on my pics or status updates
it's funny, really but some of them are really having fun with it..and putting up too much info, lmao.
pele, guess you gotta just face up to it, girl, u got a techie mamma..lol
and there's this site called 'my parents joined facebook', it's sooo funny.
Oh Myyyyy,, I am a Mother with a son on the internet. we do "not" share anything. I am not even trying to connect with him. oh no. and baby pics, NO. sorry but this mommy/grandmom blogger says, Aaahhhh Uhhh ruhhhhhh NO. Just Say NO.
your mom is your mom, keep it that way. friends, NO. MOM YES.
Er... my dad friend-requested me a while ago. Definitely will NOT be accepting that request!
my dad is on fb..bt i dnt care much abt him and wat he sees..he's pretty cool...my mom aint on, bt if and when she joins, i'll create another fb profile and add her on that one...hehehehe!
so you can create another FB profile just for your mom and ppl who know u...without connecting it to ur current prof...
lol! well stall for as long as you can...My older ones are one FB and I had to practically warn them not put any rep killing picture on facebook...lol
Funms you bad oh!
See how you just said "I gave her limited profile"
My mother has not finished learning how to send email, so i'm not expecting her to join fb any soon.
My aunts have been on my friend request list for over a yr now. I'll leave them there so they wont attempt to re-add me abeg.
I know a case where one aproko mother saw pictures of her friends daughter on fb and went to tell the woman that her daughter was posting pictures of herself on the internet. Of course it was interpreted as some form of pornography. Cue the drama.
Goodluck with that. Lets know how it pans out.
Em...please do not add your mother on facebook. Just saying. I treat facebook like the front page of a newspaper. If you dont want anyone to know anything, dont put it on your status update or wall.
I am so afraid my mom will find FB too!
Lydia
LOL! When my mom got a Facebook I jokingly told her I wasn't going to add her. The woman didn't find it funny so I couldn't stall I had to hide her. Fortunately my mom isn't that tech savvy so I blocked her from reading my wall and some other things. I just left the pics for her to see. Maybe you can try blocking her from some of the features.
i didnt add my mom, i tightened my privacy settings and i told her i did that. She was forewarned but she still went ahead. lol
And she was like "the women in church said its the best way to keep track of your kids"...no kidding! lmao
lool, I feel u, My mum added me on FB with a msg sayin
"If u dnt accept me, I'll knock u"
wat choice did I hav?! But I put her nd her siblings on a VERY limited profile.
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