Monday, March 22, 2010

UGLY BABIES...

Hey folks, thank you so much for taking the time to share your opinions on the little dilemma I was having about the Sex, Marriage & God update. The majority said I shouldn't take the post down, and I have to say I am leaning that way. The reality is that I have removed posts before, without prompting form the individuals involved, simply because the aftermath of the decision they made was difficult and our TTTEC discussion would serve as a constant reminder of their dilemma. Given that, I honestly would have removed the Sex, Marriage & God post. But, considering the abuse, the fact that I don't like being dictated to and the sound comments from you all, I am going to give myself some more time to make a decision. Geez, you know what? It stays up. Final decision. I think.

Anyway, thinking about that post is giving me a headache. So, unto the issue of today. I have always been a firm believer that if you make fun of someone's baby, you will surely end up with a funny looking child of your own. Thankfully, I never did that because I ended up with some cute babies (if I may be so bold to say so, *ahem*). The picture below is not one of my kids, sha.
http://dailydiatribe.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2007/01/ugly-baby-a3c.jpg
Well during a birthday dinner for a friend over the weekend (Happy belated bday, Dr. A), my friends and I got into a conversation over 'ugly babies'. It all began because we were discussing the birth of our friend's child who is a complete beauty. Friend A (really funny Naija babe) said she was so glad that our friend's child was fine because if not she would have had trouble saying that the child was fine. lol! Well, myself and another friend, let's call her B (fine Naija babe) stated that we had never seen any ugly babies.
Ugly Baby! by hagbard73.
And that is when the mini-wahala began. Friend C (birthday girl) joined A to claim that there are indeed many ugly babies, while B and I protested that such is not possible. We were soundly chastised for not having seen enough babies. hahaha.
Na wa. Personally, babies typically make me go "ooh" and "awww" and think happy thoughts. They all seem to have wide, curious eyes, yummy cheeks and make the most amazing sounds. I'm glad I've paid my dues and popped out 3, because if I didn't know better, I probably would be under the "Gotta have my own baby spell" and would forget that they grow up and quickly start to show you pepper as is the case with Bomboy who recently fought his father over a bottle of Guinness. But, that is another story....
So, people, are there 'ugly babies' out there and have you seen any? If you have, did you tell the parent their child was cute or how did you react? I don't think you guys can convince me that there are indeed ugly babies out there, or as my friend C said, babies that just need a little longer to grow into their looks, lol!

Being that the last time I thought you guys would be on my side, you all (and I mean ALL) took Husband's side (the issue was that ignoring wives lends to a good marriage *side eye*), the comments are going to be interesting. And, I will probably lose as you guys are likely going to side with A *sob* Oya, bring it on.

Lord have mercy....

56 comments:

Kola Tubosun said...

First! :P

Esther Adaeze Ikoro said...

FIRST!

Esther Adaeze Ikoro said...

DAMN ! MY WIFI WON COME LAAAGGG LIKE THIS EH !!!?!?!


nonsense

Esther Adaeze Ikoro said...

NO wait o! they have the same times on it ...

anyway on to the topic at hand ..

http://www.coolfunnycomments.com/img/babies/010.jpg

i won't say anything because I haven't had kids yet and I don't want to jinx myself

Kola Tubosun said...

There are no ugly babies, methinks. Only malnourished ones. All the cute babies I have seen are well fed and well rested.

Again, I have not seen ugly babies, bless the Lord!

@Esther Adaeze: Sorry o. It's not so easy to dethrone the king now. He's not Yar'adua! :P

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

@ Kola: oh my goodness! 3 weeks in a row? Na wa oh! I dof!!!!

"I have not seen ugly babies, bless the Lord!"

Hahaha...indeed!

@ Esther: lol! Twice in a row Kola has beat you to the punch. Tsk, tsk...please, who is your service provider oh, so I never use that service. lol! Just kidding. How now? I'm off to sleep, but will go to your blog later. Hoping Blogger lets me comment this time, though. =)

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

oops, Esther is correct, you guys tied for the number 1 spot. Um, I guess I was too hasty to proclaim Unkulu Kola as top spot king...

Off to rectify that...

Kola Tubosun said...

I no dey gree o!
The computer generates its ranking by seconds, microseconds and nanoseconds. I'm first, the king and the emperor.

Don't try me o, sister SSD.

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

yeparipa!
Wahala dey!

Kola, abeg no vex, its a tie, nah....

lol!

Esther Adaeze Ikoro said...

@kola: i book you high for your reign but ...
i'm planning a Coup d'├ętat

[email protected] said...

there are different kinds of babies... but i don't have one of my own so i wouldn't want to comment on it sha...

but, i always seem to see cute babies.. and to me, looking at them makes me feel satiated *lol* but i guess there a re ugly babies if peeps say there are... but i have no right at all to say "hey u, u wowo too much like ur papa/mama" that would be an insult..lol..
okie.. thats my own 2kobo worth!

RE Ausetkmt said...

babies are like the parents; if the parents combine to make a baby the baby should look like the parents. that is keeping it clean I think. but to be honest, there are lots of ugly babies out there. in fact I saw one tonite at the grocery store. crying red in the face all puffy with snot running down the mouth and the hair standing up in one thousand directions all like little toothpicks. ooooo that baby was not cute at all. and yes when I passed I did give the baby a look and a smile at the mom. then after out of site I silently gave her a long side eye.. yes I did. ooooo.. I bet there won't be many baby pics of that lil one.

Blowing Blessings Your Way said...

I have seen some babies that aren't too cute *crossing finger* (Mine own will be fine IJN!!!)....
Anyways...I rather not lie...so I would saw something like, "awww...look at the baby!" or "Look at his/her cheeks"...etc....

Anna Renee said...

@Esther Adaeze Ikoro--LOL Heh heh!

I dont think there are any ugly babies either. My son reigns as the cutest Ive ever seen, but he was only 4lb 4oz at birth, born at 8 1/2 months and didnt look as beautiful until he gained more weight and developed those chubby cheeks!
My husband brought back his baby picture,and I look at that picture often! He was very beautiful! Whenever I look at his picture I just wish I could lift him up and kiss and cuddle him! I know thats strange! Ha ha!
So no ugly babies!!

SHE said...

officially, mine is the fourth comment. Just so you guys know. Kola Tubosun, Do you live on this blog? LOL

Yes o! ugly babies exist. But their "smallness" is usually seen as "cuteness". I think!

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SHE said...

Ah! I nearly forgot!

I rebuke ugly babies in Jesus Name! Not my portion!!! LMAO!

CaramelD said...

I have never seen 'run from the pram screaming in fright' ugly babies before. There are just varying degrees of cuteness :)

Afronuts said...

lol...funny topic.

They say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder which means beauty is a relative issue.
One man's meat is another man's headache.

Are there any parameters to defining beauty or cuteness?
Charlie boy once sang that 'monkey no fine but im mama like am'
Check out the so-called ugly babies and you'll discover that their mums find them adorable and cute.

I just feel that any baby that is ugly, must have been induced to become ugly by a careless parent. And like Kola Tubosun said, malnourished babies can turn ugly!

isha said...

That Mr. Bean baby is ... *shivers*.

I'm on the wall on this matter. You may have to give the baby a day or two to open his/her eyes, get with the 'I know live outside mummy's stomach' program, and all that.

But babies shouldn't be ugly. I don't remember any that I've seen.

2cute4u said...

Hmmm, My cousin gave birth out of wedlock and as usual my momma took her in, When she gave birth, I wasn't home.. So when I came visiting, kai! The baby was soooo ugly!I told my mum oh.. Lol, She shut me up immediately but couldn't agree more.. Promptly, na him we begin prayers oh let his(He's a boy) face change oh.. Thank God for answering our prayers.. He's better looking..

BBB said...

havent ever seen an ugly baby
babies usually make me go awwww, they are always cute

BTW we need jist of bomboy and the guinness hehehe i cant wait

FFF said...

ha, solo! dat one na question? u never hear, 'monkey no fine, but him mama like am'? of course, ugly babies dey! & yes, poverty fit dey cause am half of the time. but u can still find very lovely looking babies among the poor & babies wey keep face like willywilly among d rich. esp if dem papa wooh-wooh. hehehehehe. u see y e dey dey important to marry fine boy no pimple? hahahahahaha. abeg, ugly babies dey o. but, no be from my mouth dem go hear say obasanjo dey wear pant red o

Harry-Rami Itie said...

Ugly babies???

Never heard of that one....

Omosi T said...

Hmm, I have seen some very UGLY babies in my day and while I will say 'ah your baby fine o', anyone that knows me, knows that I'm lying. But I will say this, all the ugly babies I've seen grow up tres cute, so I think it's mostly features being too big for their baby faces.

EDJ said...

On a little sidebar. I recently had a dream that I had a baby boy, but in my dream I didn't think he was cute!

In my dream I cried customary tears of joy at having delivered the child, but when I saw my baby my reaction was simply "hmm". I don't remember what the baby looked like, but on a scale of 1 to 10 I thought my baby was a 5 or 6!

What does this mean? I have never seen an ugly baby either! Lol.

NakedSha said...

I haven't seen any oh!

I mean, they have hardly been exposed to the world and its uglying effects!

:)

Azazel said...

Maybe she was referrin to bbaies who are born deformed?? THey can be ugly like that lol.

Jaycee said...

I'm also not going to say anything abt the ugly babies I've seen...who wants to be sabotaged? LOL. They are mostly cute sha...

Someone needs to dethrone Kola...

neefemi said...

lol...there wanna be ugly babies die...so you think they are fine and then grow up to be ugly?..lol, God forgive me sha, i shall not call them ugly. we are all beautifully and wonderfully made, some more than others, some more unique than others :)

Waffarian said...

All babies are cute to me, in fact, all little children are adorable. However, when my baby brother was born, he was all rumpled, red, spotty, I can not even describe how he looked. He looked like he just came out of a drying machine, I swear.

I was 10 years old and I remember the first time I saw him, hours after his birth. I turned to my mum and asked "why does he look like that?", with my nose all rumpled up. My mum turned to my dad and told him to tell the rest of us kids to "get out". Then my father was like "oya, oya, leave your mother and the baby to rest" etc etc.

That rumpled baby turned out to be the cutest kid on the block. He is 21 now and SUPER handsome!

Since then, I never judge babies...remember they have just been "squuezed" out, they take time to "iron" out. Hahahahahaha.

Waffarian said...

Which reminds me of when one of our neighbours had her baby. She had a C-section,(for whatever reason, she had been put to sleep and so was still sleeping but I had already seen the baby, since my mum is a nurse and she delivered the baby...one of the priviledges of hanging around hospitals).

Anyway, my mum had placed the baby beside her bed on one side and I sat on the other side of the bed. When the lady woke up, she knew the baby was beside her but she was afraid to look. She turned to me with her eyes closed and here was the convo.

"You don see the pikin?"

"Yes nah, she is right beside you"

"The pikin fine?"

"She fine nah"

"You sure?"

"Ehn nah, she fine well well"

Then she finally turned to her other side and opened her eyes to see her baby.

One of those memories that stays with you forever.

I never respected her the same way after that day. Anytime I saw her, all I could think of her saying was "the pikin fine?"

She did not even ask if the baby was healthy or if everything was okay, etc...who wakes up and asks "the pikin fine?"

The experiences of an achiever....... said...

roflol @ Waffrian..don't judge the lady now..maybe she had the ugly gene running amok in her family.
@ My Mrs Sydelle..I have never seen an ugly baby o.. If I were to see one..I'll probably be very quiet
P.S - I dislike smelly babies!!!! In my mind..babies should ALWAYS smell baby-powdery!

shorty said...

I don't think there are ugly babies o,babies are so cute.

mizchif said...

LMAO @ Waffarian's story. That woman is terrible.

Uhm....in answer to d kweshion .....ugly babies dey oh...wella sef.
But no be me talk.

histreasure said...

oh definitely, definitely.. i've seen them...and i'm not talking small or sickly looking, i'm talking plain ugly..lol..

Nogo Blogs said...

I agree with Kola the computer doesn't lie... as a Technology student I support Kola's cause!

Haha

As for babies... me I can't jinx my own just because you already have fine babies, lol. Ask me again in a few years so I can tell you my real answer ;)

NoLimit said...

All babies are "cute" but errr some are cuter than others...

ibiluv said...

ugly????......harsh word..........

babies i didnt wanna touch so as not to jinx my future kids???yep i've seen a few.....

i think its about great genes on both sides of the family tree.....

Nice Anon said...

I rather be an ugly baby than be ugly in adulthood.

I have seen ugly babies o!

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Miss Natural said...

I was reading this in class instead of listening to presentations that were going on. It is a small class and I hope no one noticed my laughs quickly turned into coughs. Some of these comments are hilarious. Well I have seen some babies that are not so cute in the conventional way but luckily they are babies so it makes it easier to overlook and cuddle them :)

Myne Whitman said...

All the comments were just making me laugh. I plead the fifth myself before, ehem , you know...

LovePaprika said...

yaykpa pls dnt scare me o!!! I never born pikin! I have seen ugly babies but I jst think ok its not their fault n try to be nice lol

The Girl with the Red Hair said...

No seen any ugly babies, but heard there are oh.

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

@ everyone: just asked my mother and she too is yapping me oh! She says there are ugly babies and just because I have not seen any does not mean they do not exist. ouch! lol! She says if a baby takes after an 'unattractive' parent well..., lol! The parents will still see beauty, sha. =)

naija mom abroad said...

I won't really say there are ugly babies. I just know there are some babies you might not really feel too enthusiatic about carrying. you know it's almost instinctive to want to carry a baby when you see one.

My reaction, well, I realize I just keep saying 'eeyyaaa!' and maybe find something cute about it. There really must be something cute about each baby, maybe the lips, eyes, nose etc. There really aren't any ugly babies.

aloted said...

personally i think wen babies are just born they dont look their best (swollen eyes, funny shape of head)..thats how my princess looked! and i dont blame them - after the ordeal they woulda gone thru to come out! lol

however! they grow into their own...and MOST of them look cute and adorable.

Dami Bello said...

I don't think there are ugly babies.....some just need a very lil while for their face to really take form.....

But then, quite a lot later grow up to become ~ hmmn! fugly....lol!

Ms. 'dufa said...

Lol...I've not seen an ugly baby but I've heard they are...But u cant tell a mother her baby is ugly

yankeenaijababe said...

OMG! That must surely hurt to say that there are ugly babies, I have seen ugly babies but will tell the parents the child is cutie. I can't hurt a parent's feeling and I don't believe any baby is ugly knowing that I have seen ugly babies grow up beautiful and so cutie cutie. I feel it is so wrong to say that there are ugly babies, it hurts

Writefreak said...

Just like not every human being is not a looker, not all babies are lookers...but i won't say a baby is ugly
Children are a gift from God, and i never say one is ugly or not.
Most babies i know are cute and i pray when i have mine they will be cute too ...

LucidLilith said...

Ha ha! I have seen ugly babies...but truth be told...almost all babies look like aliens when they are born.

funkola said...

babies are always cute as far as i know but when i consider a baby ugly/uncute is when the moma doesnt keep him/her clean or yummy looking. u just dont wanna touch those ones.
~www.funkolaani.blogspot.com

dawn said...

Ok then,lets just say some babies are a bit more 'Looks' challenged than others..
My mom always warns against labelling a baby ugly cos she asks me if i know how mine will look.
But SSD meehhnnn,there r just some...chai!!i'm not talking about the new born baby state, i mean the 7 months or 8 month teething kids..
I know i'll never ever mention a kid is ugly to the parents,but sometimes u see the knowing glances on peoples faces
Once u hear 'aww,he's such a happy kid or aww,he's soo lively, he doesn't even cry,she's got a cute smile..u know wats up.

The nitty-gritty tales of a housewife said...

Yep! there are ugly babies o! No fault of theirs sha! but that of the parents! Alas! monkey no fine, but im mama like am! hehehehee