Hmmm...todays installment was told to me by 'Peju' and it turns out I know the people involved. Nigeria is a large country but I swear, when it comes to Nigerians, its only a matter of 3-4 degrees of separation, not 6.
All I can say is that it is important for people to be honest. It is also important for us to take what our partners tell us seriously. Ladies, if a man does not want you, please, let him go. And, yes, you will know. But if you don't please contact me for the Senior Girl's Handbook. I believe that what happened below was a direct result of a woman thinking she could change a man and make him love her more than he actually does. Mind you, I cannot heap all the blame on this lady. The guy in this situation should have had more balls and extricated himself from this relationship because he clearly had no interest in being monogamous to a woman who wanted monogamy. Men, be honest with your partners. Anyway, please read and see what I am talking about. I had to cut some stuff out because the story was long, but I hope you get the drift of it all.
Have a blessed weekend.
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My cousin Albert is a royal bastard. Like his father before him, he is a womanizer and will chase anything that moves. He met one of my bestfriends Morenike at a party some years ago. Morenike and I went to Corona together and we even went to the same secondary school. I came to the US first, but when she came, she transferred to my college and we are like sisters.
Anyway, I was there when she met Albert and I warned her to stay away from him, but she did not listen. Anyway, one thing led to another and after 2 tumultous years of a relationship filled with cheating, she was impregnated by him. Unlike Albert, she was ecstatic and believed that by having his first child, he would marry her and change his cheating ways, blah, blah, blah. Albert refused to marry her and her mother and sisters came from Naija to force her things into his house. Yes, I definitely mean force. WIth all that, he refused to marry her, but he allowed her to live in the house.
One baby turned into 2 babies and during this time, Albert was not faithful to Morenike. I would get phonecalls in the middle of the night from her, crying and asking me where my "brother" was. I would console her as best I could and let things be.
3 months ago, I received a phonecall from her around 4am in the morning. She called to tell me that I needed to meet her at a motel almost 30 minutes from my house. When I told her I could not leave my house when I had work in a few hours, she told me that if I did not come, she would kill Albert. I had never heard her talk like that before so my boyfriend drove me to meet her. The minute his car pulled up, Morenike jumped from her car and ran upstairs. I have never seen her display the strength she did that day because she used her leg to break open that door. I ran in behind her only to see her holding a knife, screaming and about to stab the people in the bed. I still had no idea what was going on so I grabbed her. I got cut in the process but, with all the commotion the people in the bed jumped up. It was Albert and this girl, Chima. Now, Chima, is kind of known for being loose. Anyway, my boyfriend and I wrestled Morenike out of that room, but she warned Chima to stay away from Albert and threatened that if their paths crossed, the next time blood would shed.
Unfortunately, Nike has kept her promise somewhat. Last week Friday, she asked me to babysit for her. I said yes. She told me she and Albert were going to go away for the night. Like a mumu, I believed her. Unbeknownst to me, she told Albert she was spending the night at my place with the girls (which she has done many times before). Instead, she waited for him to bring Chima to the house, ran inside in the middle of the night, poured alkali on the girls face and was arrested by the police.
Albert refuses to pay her bail. Nike's mother has come from Nigeria to take care of the kids but everything is a mess. Her mother is blaming me for hooking them up and keeps saying that I "allowed" Nike to get into trouble. Back home, Nike's older brother attacked my younger cousin at a party over the weekend and her family is badmouthing my family, saying that because they trusted us, they allowed their daughter to "marry" Albert. Mind you, Albert never married her. Her family kept telling everyone in Naija that they were married but that was never the case.
I just don't know how I have become the sacrificial lamb in all this. For years, I warned Nike to leave Albert alone. Even his own mother begged her to take the children and leave. After all, Albert would have taken care of his children, no question. He is a very well-paid lawyer and can afford to put Nike and the kids in a nice place. But, she refused. Please what can I do? My boyfriend says I must not bail her out and that I need to mind my business and let everything cool down. But, how can I? Albert refuses to do anything and her family is insisting that my family "do something". I can't believe the mess. Nike might go to jail for a very long time. I just don't know what, if anything, I can do.
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If I may be honest, I advised this lady to listen to her boyfriend. There is nothing she can do. Nike refuses to take Peju's calls and the amount needed for bail is very high. To get that money, Peju would have to literally rob a bank or put up collateral she does not have. Well, I hope you guys have something more to give her than I did, because I just didn't know what else to say.
*smh*
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steer clear i would say... she warned Nike who would not listen..
woww.. no man is worth that. the children should have come first in her mind. leaving him should have been the first thing not the last. now she is the one who is suffering not him. Oh Lawd, this is sad.
Not a very nice story.
If Peju can, she should bail her friend out. You've already said that would be costly, but It would be difficult to just fold her arms and watch...
steer clear, her family or some samaritan will bail her out eventually. did anyone "tie" her into the "marriage"?
and her family are jokers, how can ur family be responsible for a decision made by an adult? so they met thru u, so??? leave them to their issues, she has learnt her lessons now.
i pity her sha
I wonder why you feel this responsible for Nike.
By bailing her, how much of the problem will be solved?
Is Chima suing? If she is then let her remain there and face trial.
I know this sounds hard but Nike has committed a crime. She may be calm now that all the dust is settling but the law is still the law.
Peju, this may be tough but you would be doing yourself a great service to steer clear.
You can help her by checking on her children if you can and visiting her in jail.
My 2 cents.
Lol u should have seen how I ran here, thinking I would be first.. Hiss..
I am with albert on this one, why the hell should he pay her bail??
I understand she was hurt on being cheated on, but some babes take ish to far..
It's just like this babe I know who cut my friend's tires right in front of us because she felt he was cheatin on her even though they were not going out o? Na fuckin wa
Ok...tough and sad as this story might be..Nike was real plain stupid, its different being irrational when its just you, but she had two kids to think of and no man is worth what she's put herself and them through.
If i was Peju...its real hard to turn your back on a true friend...no matter how stupid, so yes, i might work around trying to raise the bail from friends and family (would really have to try and speak with my boyfriend about this till he agrees)...if charges are pressed then Nike would have to face that...and if no charges are pressed, i would insist that i would bail her if only she agrees to get some therapy and that would mean staying away from her kids until she's stable.
Yes she was foolish, but even the foolish ones need family and friends.
I really don't undersatnd why ladies can't just read the danger signs...what was so spectacular abt Albert dat she couldn't let go.
Peju told her the truth right from the start, and if morenike's family likes let them say whatever but peju shd steer clear from morenike...simple!
I really don't undersatnd why ladies can't just read the danger signs...what was so spectacular abt Albert dat she couldn't let go.
Peju told her the truth right from the start, and if morenike's family likes let them say whatever but peju shd steer clear from morenike...simple!
If Peju bailed Nike out, who's to say she won't try to do more damage, get more revenge? She's become a fatal attraction and if I was Peju, I'd stay away for the sake of my own family. Fatal attractions no longer are in their right minds. In jail, she's probably wondering why she let this happen to herself!!
Please ladies, don't put your entire worth in a man! Lord have mercy!
I can see how easy it is to sum Nike up as hopeless but really she is at a dark place that she might not be able to get out of by herself.If Peju can, she should still help, not for anybody's sake but for friendship and the kids.
wats alkali do to your face?
and whats *smh*?
i dont think this woman should bail her friend out, at least not yet. Nike needs to sit there and think about why she's so crazy about this guy. but someone should bail that poor woman out eventually.
wow poor Peju xx
I don't know why she didn't pour the alkali on the dude's face. She would still be in trouble anyway, so it might as well be because of the person causing the wahala.
I kinda of dont feel sorry for her esp since she chose to deal with the lady instead of her "husband" who was a chronic cheater. She got exactly what she asked for. I think that friend should stay as far away as possible. She is already being made a scape goat, meanwhile the person responsible for it all, is refusing to do something.
Nike na wa o. dem do am juju!
sha, peju should do what she can for her friend. maybe not bailing her out (come sef, what are Nike's family mizcaphoning & parayarning. na peju force Nike into albert's home. abi no be dem! nonsense. if na me b peju, i no open my mouth tell dem their lives. rubbish!), but certainly being there for her kids. albert really should be d one bailing her, or her family. pple should take up their responsibilities joo
Peju if you are reading this, you are a kind person for wanting to bail out your friend but her crime is not your responsibility. In fact her mother should bear the brunt of the guilt for assisting her daughter in forcing herself on this man. Let her family bail her out. Their insults will dry from their mouths eventually.
She should have poured the alkali on the stupid mans face.
I felt sad reading that.....
Peju should do what she can but please don't put yourself in financial difficulty because of Nike.....no matter what the 'mistress' did she does not deserve having chemicals poured on her face. That is very serious. Nike has to be held accountable for her own actions. It is her kids I feel sorry for.
this just reads like a nollywood movie gone wrong.
and im going to be objective with my comment:
Peju, Nike might be your friend, but you cant carry another person's problems on your head especially if they dont want it. has it ever occured to you that Nike could jump bail?
if you want to help her, you can help pressure Albert to bail her out. Its a different thing if you had d money sitting in your bank account or something.
I think Nike's mother is very silly for blaming Peju. How did she think things would end up when she was forcibly moving her daughter into Albert's house?
Peju should listen to her boyfriend and stay clear of this matter because Nike and her family are not interested in taking responsibility for their actions. There's really nothing more she can do in this situation, i mean she even got wounded while preventing Nike from committing murder for God's sake! And it's also not your family's job (apart from Albert) to do anything about this so you shouldn't let their pressure get to you.
Na wa.
If her friend really poured ALKALI on the other girl, what is she to do? She has to let the investigation take a toll because she would be wasting money in bailing her out.
One good thing she can do is to make sure that the kids are properly taken care of. Although Nike's mum is around, things may get a little difficult. The kids may be in danger and I think I'm more concerned about them. Before the whole thing starts to affect them...
i say stay out of it too! uve tried ur best, let her be and let her deal with the consequences of her actions, if u do bail her out this would happen again.
easier said than done i know, seeing as u guys are practically sisters.
I really wish I could feel sorry for Nike but I don't... She is in the mess she created for herself and now is continuing to do what has been allowed for her to do all of her years: Not take responsibility for her actions. Her parents seem to have enabled her (forcing a move into someone's house? No shame?) and they continue to do so...
The only people losing out in this exchange are the children... It is so sad for them. The Albert guy is a coward but that's not news.
As women, we should be more mindful of protecting ourselves and our eventual children. Nobody is going to care for your heart better than you. We can not count on somebody to care for our hearts, we have to be proactive about it.
Also, I think this should be a wake up call to families putting unreasonable crazy pressure on their children (mostly daughters)... They create those expectations that a woman should be married at X age "BY FIRE BY FORCE" and help create this angst and anxiety, driving perfectly sane girls (like I assume Nike to be) into crazy situations like this...
I think the author don't want to be too entangled in this story (although she already is), and if she has the money, she can post bail... but what Nike needs now is a very GOOD lawyer to claim temporary insanity or something along those lines.
Such a sad, sad story. *sigh*
Why did she attack the girl and not her babies daddy? Peju if you can, pay her bail and list out to her after that your involvement is ended. Her family and Albert should also take part of the responsibility. Still you're not the law and she may need to do time for her rash mistake.
first off, Peju should def not be on a guilt trip of any sort..none of these was her fault and thus, she shd be wary of takng legal responsibility..
why do you think her own family and/or the guy is reluctant to post her bail? it's more than the cash and collateral but because babe, she's most likely to jump bail, and ur ass will be screwed(excuse my french)
help with the kids and all..be sure your own family knows enough to debunk any stupid stories back hpme..personally i dont understand babes who do this sort of thing or mothers who push them to.
Wow wow wow!!!!!...I think Peju should listen to her bf and leave Nike be...she should be responsible for her actions...she knew wat she was getting into so that's her own wahala
is alkali not soluble base?its not corrosive so i doubt it actually did anything to the girl chima in question.
nike is just such a sad pathetic woman. if i were peju and i had th money, i will bail her out...what are friends for?
At first, I was feeling sympathetic towards Nike, but now I am just irritated. Which kin nonsense wey she come pour alkali for homechick's face instead of Albert's. She has not finished learning her life lesson. Peju steer clear.
these situations always end up messy.the ones who believe themselves to be in love become insane with this believe that things would change.As you rightly narrated, they never do.. As usual instead of peole to man up to their fuck ups, excuse my language, they look for the next person to blame.. Why should they blame you? when your friend's mum n sis bundled her into a man's house when he wasn't intersted,did you ask them too? everyother thing involved, ignore them and just be there for your friend anyway you can, you can't kill yourself.. take care.
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Errr... Peju is the story teller abi? As far as i am concerned- norrin cosain am. She did not tell Nike to force herself on a man and then commit a crime. She'll be ok where she is. She obviously put her selfish emotions before her children.
Someone should just bail her out. If need be, she should return to Nigeria and leave Albert. You can force a horse to the river but never to drink!
Women are their own worst enemies. Na wa o! See major unnecessary wahala.
steeer slear oh
just leave hr there
her family will evntually bail her out
@azazel thats wrong sha
the guy was wrong
cheating on her when they already have kids together, they might not be married but he was obviously having sex with her
See wetin penis dey cause? I don tell una say penis no good. Una no dey hear word.
First of all, that girl needs serious help. I don't think she should go anywhere without some serious therapy and some sort of psychological help. It is obvious that she has serious problems. Having two children for a man that treats you like shit is serious.
Reminds me of a friend of mine that says she is head over heels in love with her man but at the same time is so miserable that she is suicidal. It does not make sense.
If I were Peju, that's actually the part I would concentrate on. I will try and see what sort of help this woman needs. I think some time away from the so called toxic Albert will actually do her good. She needs to wash her head. In fact, perhaps this is what she needs to make the final break from him.
I think everybody should work on getting that woman's mind right...
Men self, are wicked. He should have been a man. I am sure he was eating his cake and having it. Coming home to a clean house, food...stupid fool. Coward.
And women, please, please, I have said it before. No dick is worth your sanity.
this was horrible! i hope the situation has resolved istelf in the sense that Peju has taken a course of action which has brought some measure of relief. but nawa for the family too, they should just accept that she brought it all upon herself and stop blaming peju. If the attraction was meant to happen then there was nothing peju could do in the beginning to stop it.
CHIMA sef! What was she doing there with the guy again? Pesin wey warn u with knife! U no sabi say she don kolo finish? Albert's blokus better had been dropping diamonds o, because lai lai, he would not have even seen my brake light if I were her.
As far as Peju, well I have no advice for her or Nike, I just don't knwo what to say.
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