Hello everyone, please take the time to offer some sound advice to this reader. Let's call her, Joke. She is really dealing with an internal conflict and I know that your suggestions will help her come to a final decision.
My parents have been married for 44 years and are about to celebrate their 45th anniversary. My mother is very excited and my siblings and I are planning a huge party in their honor. However, I have some disturbing information and I am not sure what to do with it.
My father has been secretly cheating on my mother for years. Oddly enough, I was a part of the charade but never knew it. When I was younger, he would always take me with him on drives while he visited various friends. Every Sunday after church, he would take me to visit this lady and her little girl. We would be there for hours and during that time, I would play outside with the little girl.
I only recently realized that this woman was and has been his mistress since I was a child. I won't share how I came to the realization, but I did confront my father about it and all he had to say was that I am too young to understand such things. Mind you, I am 22 years of age.
My mother constantly talks about how good a man my father is and how I should make sure I marry a man like him. If only she knew. But now, given this knowledge, I wonder if I should tell my mother that she has been competing with another woman in her marriage and that there is another child out there.
I just don't think I can plan and attend their anniversary party and watch my father continue to lie to my mother and the entire world. If he really loved her, he wouldn't have cheated on her for so long, so much so that he would have a child that is almost my age, for goodness sake.
I'm hurt and confused. Please, what do you think I should do next?