Hey Easier Crew. How are you guys doing. I have spent the last month trying to get all the information necessary to register TE for school and wow! It has been an ordeal. Running around trying to find all her medical records and get old records sent to her new doctor. Thank God we are now at the half way point. But my advice for all parents is keep a copy of your children's medical records. I thought I did, but somehow misplaced them.
Anyway, will be back to regular bloghopping soon. Please read the following installment and offer your advice and suggestions.
Take care!
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I have 2 brothers and 5 male cousins, though they are all like my brothers. The cousins are all older than I am. My cousins' girlfriends always complain that they don't get the same kinda love that their boyfriends give the cousins, to which I always replied 'Duh!'. (The are only 3 girls in this family of 10 siblings/cousins), so you can imagine how pampered and sheltered we are.
Now, I kinda put two and two together and realized that they always come to that realization of being ignored when I am in the vicinity; like I'm taking up all the quality time they should have with their boyfriends. I've tried to find out from my cousins if I'm the problem, but of course they won't hear of that. I'm guessing they're just saying that because I'm blood and I've always been there, and the girlfriends are not permanent fixtures anyway until 'here comes the bride'.
Anyhow, the koko of this whole sumtin is that I'm trying to figure out if there's something I need to do different, or if I'm just worrying my pretty little head for nothing. It's not like I'm not blocking my cousin-brothers runs-es, but I'm not necessarily less clingy and 'lovey-dovey' to them than I was at like age 6.
The reason I'm using this joint is just to get an unbiased perspective of the whole thing. People who know me would give me the, 'Oh you're just very friendly and can be misinterpreted' yada yada.
What do you think?
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19 comments:
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look hu is first!!!!
Second! Woooo! Almost back where I belong :)
Third!!!!
I don't understand though, why are you with them when they are with their girlfriends? Don't they go for dates?
Do you all live near each other?
Anyway, I don't think your cousins hold their girlfriends in high esteem because is they did I doubt the ladies would feel so neglected. From what I can see it's got nothing to do with you and more to do with the couples.
(I'm still scratching my head over where you all see each other ??!!)
I think it's wrong for your cousins' gfs to think you take all the attention. There must be something you guys are doing wrong.
If the tables were turned and you were in the gf's shoes, i'm pretty sure you'd hate it too.
Try give them some space with their gfs and if need be, have a serious convo with your cousins and let them know what their priority should be.
Your cousins obviously don't value their girlfriends enough, otherwise they would listen to the complaints and pay attention.
YAY, FIFTH!!!
Having grown up in a family of five girls and no guys, I can't honestly give much advice on this, but from my own experience in a relationship, I'd say that the issue is with the cousins. If they really value their relationships, they'd try their best to make their girls not feel neglected.
Just my 10 kobo.
Your cousins are mostly to blame, but if you have already said that you're not less clingy to them than when you were 6, then you know where your blame is in all this as well. Your cousins know they can't marry you abi? They better learn to focus on their romantic relationship or they might never get to the stage of getting married o.
Personally I'm very close to my older brother, everyone complains that he indulges me too much, but not once has any of his girlfriends ever complained that I'm taking up their quality time (or quality money), mostly because my brother sets the pace for that & for the most part as I've grown up the relationship has evolved to a more mature one with less need for me to be completely under his wing and more to one where I am seeking advice from someone who has been there.
Now I'm in a relationship with a man who comes from a family of 3 boys & 1 girl who is the baby, and while they're very close and very protective of the baby, I don't think I've ever even thought once that the girl is taking any of my shine. He did make a concerted effort to make sure that I got along with his sister & I know how important she is to him but even when she's in town I don't ever feel like a 3rd wheel.
i agree with caramel D exactly...there's no reason for you to be around your cousins when they're with their girlfriends. do u live with them? it all sounds shady to me
i am a bit confused..are you always with your cousins and their girlfriends?
imagine yourself in the gfs shoes and do what u will like them to do to u. at least your side is covered. the rest is left to your cousins.
I made first 10?
Really?
So lemme go read the post now properly.lol
eh?? top 10??!?! i had to sign in to google for this!
to be honest i find this weird... your cousins drop their gfs for their cousin??? i mean how tight are you guys?! and did this girl join them on their chill time or did the cousins go to her and the gf jjus tagged along?? cuz then its differnt in my opinion...
anyway watever the case family is family if the gurls are feeling neglected then they need to work on their relationship and not u
just my 2 cents
I was in the same situation as your cousin's girl friends. It is annoying, and atleast the girls are saying it to you. I kept it to myself and just got mad everytime I saw my bf's female cousin because I felt like that was something she should just know.
Seriously, I came to see my boo to have quality time, why are you here? I think it won't be as bad if they actually included me in their conversation. The worst part was there was a time I was in town for just 2 days to see him and she was always calling, texting, come on.
So I had the perfect solution. I hooked her up with my friend and I began to like her because she disturbed us 99% less.
I think you need a boyfriend, if you have a boyfriend talk to your boyfriend more, hang out more with him, have more fun wiht him. if you're not doing that. Maybe you need another one. It all comes down to you being bored and sorry, they have every right to complain.
I just read the comments and people are saying the cousin is to blame. Let me just mention one thing now, guys don't get it. I complained to my BF and his answer was like c'mon on thats like my sister. I rather talk to her than other girls.
To them (guys) they see it as you don't want their family around, or when you get married you will kick their family out of the house. I was smart enough to drop the conversation there and came up with another solution for myself (get the girl a man). I think the girl (not the cousin) is to blame. Remember guys are from Mars. They don't think the way we do.
i dont get it.
I think you're nice to ask yourself a few honest questions.
I don't think you are to blame but is it possible for you to give the 'lovers'a little more space?
The GF may just be a little insecure and since you're real nice, you can help her out a bit by taking 'a hint'.
well i will live the shrinkin to the gurus. hope u resolved the records problem
I had the same problem with my kid. I was sure I had all her record on file but every time I need them, they seem to disappear. Sigh. I now photocopy each new document and scan them so I both have backup and electronic copies.
See the kind of life I live...I'm only just finding the time to come and post an actual comment...
I think you're used to them pampering you and that's okay...They're your family...Now speaking from experience...sometimes I get upset when my brothers are paying more attention to someone else than they do to me but I realized that at the end of the day, they're still my brothers, NO ONE can take that away...So what I'm trying to say is that the girlfriends are just insecure but they'll get used to it...
At the same time...try and give them a little space...They're your family...You can hang out with them anytime...so let your brothers and your cousins' girlfriends have their own time...
Hope that helps
xxx
I think you should put yourself in the GF's shoes; would you want your Bf's cousin taking up on you quality time???
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