TTTEC: A DIFFICULT QUESTION

My people, I recently went to a get-together hosted by some a single friend of mine. While there, we all got to gisting and as usual I was the last to know about all the latest gist from Lagos and Abuja. Before I knew it, a friend started talking about my blogging and whipped out a laptop and the group started reading many of the TTTEC stories. I never knew how much discussion and drama these issues could raise until that day. It was serious.

Later that evening, while I was on the porch enjoying the evening breeze, with a glass of Riesling in hand, one of the ladies came out to talk to me. She said she wanted my opinion and I told her that if I could give it, I would. This is the question she asked me -

"What should a woman do if she finds her husband in bed with multiple women?"

I guess the alcohol I was having made me a little slow because I assumed she meant that the mystery woman's husband had been in numerous affairs with various women. When I asked for clarification, she said,

"No. I mean the man was in bed with many women at the very same time!"

I went quiet for a while, and then, I said,

"Well, it is not for me to judge, but I daresay my response would depend on knowing additional information."

She looked at me funny, and I think because she realized I would rather think through the issue than rush to a conclusion,all of a sudden she relaxed. Well, the amount of alcohol that had been flowing since the afternoon might have contributed to the candor =), because she soon started to tell me an incredible story. This woman, who from what I could see was a wonderful lady, is married to a very wealthy man who has been rumored to have many girlfriends around town. She said her husband is well known at some of the local university campuses and she has had young girls outrightly tell her that they are sleeping with her husband.

One weekend, she came home early from a visit to her village only to walk into her house and discover her hubby in bed with 5 women. She didn't know what to do, so she walked out and went to her sister's house. Two days later, she was on a plane to Washington, D.C. She is staying in a house owned by her husband not far from where I live. She has not spoken to her husband in 3 weeks and he is threatening to come and take her back to Nigeria. She feels trapped and is definitely confused. She wants to know what her options are and how to achieve them.

I asked her if she didn't mind me putting this up as a TTTEC installment and she said she was intrigued to learn what you guys think as she had taken time to read some other TTTEC installments and comments while at the party. I know that many of you will be wondering what my suggestion was. I will wait to see whether anyone's comment comes close to mine and if so, I will admit it for the sake of fairness. If no one comes close to my suggestion, well, I will remain silent.

Anyway, please feel free to share your opinions and please, be brutally honest. This lady, lets call her Amina, can definitely handle honesty. But, I beg everyone to be as respectful as possible in expressing your thoughts.

Thanks so much guys and fire away...