So my friend's sister showed her fashions at New York Fashion Week as part of the ThisDay/Arise African Collective. She was part of a group of African designers showing their creations. I am so proud of all of them and wish them all continued success!
You can check out pictures here.The pictures belong to GETTY IMAGES, so I don't think I can publish them here. Sorry, folks!
The models on the catwalk included the fabulous Chanel Iman, Alek Wek, Nnenna (from Americas Top Model), Diandra (a beautiful albino model signed to Elite that is the newest, freshest face on the scene) and of course, my personal favorite, Liya Kebele. And oh my, I somehow forget to mention THE Naija model of them all - the incredible Oluchi!
Also, can someone tell me why Jinta is 'hating' on Val's Day? lol! Don't forget to say happy bday to Aloofar. He is a year older today.
Make sure to show some love to those you care for and enjoy this clip of a guy I recorded talking about dating Nigerian women. I think he makes some fair points.
What do you think?
Happy Valentine's Day to all of you!
See you on Monday!
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I'm first!
Okay so I'll have to disagree with this bobo for one minute. Since I've been in the US I've not dated Nigerian guys either. Naija guys always say they want a woman who will meet them halfway but in my experience I don't think they mean that. I'm the girl who offers to pay, who plans dates independently, does not front about sex and flirts. But then they say you come on too strong or you are too independent/wild. Plus Nigerian men expect you to cook, clean, and put out, but, they are not willing to "meet you halfway" when it comes to these issues
Hahahaha...I made it up here...Number 3...finally...YAYYYYY!!!
Ohhh...I'm technically number two...even better...u dont understand my excitement...i'm doing d happy dance on my bed...lol. Happy Valentines Day Mrs. SD!!!
oK Aunty, I really hope you dont personnally know this person. I dont like him. Everything he said was complete CRAP. I dont agree with him at all. Whatever girl that is not another Trouble added to his plate can have him. Nonsense. IN fact, if all Nigerian men think like this, I hope I never date one.. Mscheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew. IN fact he gets another
mscheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew.
XOXO Aunty, have a lovely Valentines day.
Happy Valentines day!!!
I think the guy has a point. But he's in the minority. He might like girls to be upfront but the fact is that a lot of Nigerian guys love the hard chase. They love having to 'sweat for it' and would not respect a girl if she didn't make them sweat. It's definitely the culture. It's expected. But I have to say I find this guy's attitude refreshing.
happy vals day to you darl... your friends sis did a really gud job!!!
lol @ temite's comment although i agree :s
I can already see so heat sent this guys way...anyways I think he mixes up his point a bit, but kinda straightens it out at the end.Let me just state wat I agree with - I agree with the friendship first approach, it is something I have mentioned before in my blog. I however don't like the "I'm too busy for all that" attitude...if you don't have the time, when would you have the time, after all is it not the companionship u r looking for and watever comes with.
It seems he suggests some level of flirtation, I think flirting (b4 d friendship) leads to "a date" -- that awkward outing, where y'all sit face to face probably for dinner and try to make conversation. Dates are like two way interviews, and I don't think dates (well some dates) yield honest interactions, and that already puts a limit to the friendship he suggests.
I don't think there is anything wrong with a naija woman being a lil reserved when affronted by a guy (naija or otherwise), after all not everyone that approaches you has the right to be ur friend..so kini big deal? Abeg let the Nigerian woman be, if you see what you want go for it, if not try the other door..shekinah...
Most nigerian girls in America don't front, but Nigerian guys still feel a girl is fronting if she doesn't like him.
You only chase after girls cause you want to. If she says no then let her be and move on to the next person. If she's fronting then that's her loss.
I assure you that 90% of the time she's not fronting. She just deosn't want to talk to you, or interested in what you have to offer. It has nothing to do with shakara, it just means there is something about you she sees that she's not feeling. Especially when you come up to her and start a conversation like, "you're looking good today o" or "fine girl".. of course she's shutting you down because yes, you might not want to get with her but thats not how you start a friendly conversation with someone you've never met.
My point is.. the fault is not totally on girls.. and not all girls do shakara/front.
Are you going to be playing matchmaker for this fellow, ma'am?
I like a lot of what this guy had to say: don't front, be yourself, friendship is a good way to start, meet in the middle, etc. as long as men realize that this doesn't mean that they should hold back on approaching a woman because they think she should do her part and meet him halfway on the asking out.
To be honest, I've always thought that women do plenty to get a guy to approach them. With the exception of the guy who will approach anything with a pair of breasts, I think many women send out signals that give some men the encouragement to approach them (that's not shakara precisely)...if he approaches her based on this encouragement then she's essentially made the first move now!
Relationships on a whole would be easier if people were just direct: you see someone that looks interesting, you go up to them and say "I find you interesting and want to get to know you better" and the person responds in the negative or affirmative and life goes on. I honestly think it would make life easier!
Hope u had a fav v-day n well enjoyed listening to the guy...now Mama Bomboy are u going to match-make him?i wonder if there are any single bloggers in Maryland???..lol
Hope you all had a good valentine's day...
Now to the post... lets not forget that this man is talking from HIS OWn point of view, which I guess is his experience, which he cannot and should not use to GENERALISE every single Nigerian women! haba...
We women do NOT do shakara... in fact in this day and age, we are more open to friendship... all this 'shakara' or whatever we want to call it, I believe is a perception that men have about most if not all nigerian women.. and it's simply not true.
he says a woman should step up, when we do, they call us 'ashawo', when we don't they say we are doing 'shakara'... 'dating' thing tire me oh...
we are just being who we are... if the guy has no pre-conception or what not, he should not be expecting shakara or upfrontness.. just go from what the feeling, situation or stance is... i tire for all this categorisation...
If a woman is expecting the guy stepping up to her, to at least look presentable, and look and talk like he got some brain... please that is not 'shakara' that is just common sense... Lord help us..
Happy val's day in arrears! hope you had a good one..
Will listen to the video later...
how's the family?
@ Remi, A woman can step up to a guy without literally stepping up to him. I think there are different ways of approaching guys without having to come right out with it.
One thing we women shouldn't forget is that sometimes men can be scared of approaching a woman they are really feeling. Just my own 2 cents
first things first, good job SSD. Was that bomboy in the background adding his own two-bit?lol
what more "come-on" could a guy be asking for with all the cleavage exposure, and make-up, and skinny jeans etc that naija girls have on these days? huhn? i keed.
the guy had a good point with the friendship thing BUT he offended me with the "i dont want extra bla bla on my plate" talk! Girls too have ish on their plates and dont need guys with issues abeg. there has to be mutual respect, not everybody is looking for somebody to carry their "bukata" if u know what i mean...lol
I dont live in the States, so i cant talk for them, but if i like a guy, i wont "do shakara", if i dont, then he myt get the short end of the stick! shikena!
dang it
does this mean that i am not nigerian
this is sad
i thought i was a nigerian woman, aha i was born in Yaba my father is from Otun Ekiti, i went to ISI in Ibadan
so how did i lose my culture cuz according to this guy nigerian women behave one way and being that i don't behave that way then i am not nigerian
i am going to go and cry now
bye bye
Ok, since d guy has said the part that is paining him...who will answer my own question about Naija guyz abeg...???
@ Iyabo Opeke: Send me your questions...
Hoe now? Long time no see.
=)
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