What do you guys think about this? Is this the advice you would give to your sister or close friend if she was in a similar situation? Have you taken this approach and if so, did it work for you?
I am not judging anyone, believe me, I don't have the energy. But I am curious about how popular this approach is.
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I'M MORE INTO PRACTICAL XTAINITY..
THE ANSWER AND POWER LIES WITH YOU AS A WOMAN OF GOD.
THESE STRANGE WOMEN ARE EVERY WHERE BUT THE HAPPINESS OF YOUR HOME AND MARRIAGE LIES WITH YOU.THE BALL IS IN YOUR COURT.
THESE GIRL ARE NO ISSUES,
TAKE CHARGE AND PUT YOUR HOME BACK IN ORDER.
SOLUTION..........
1...SUBMISSION.
2...TRUST.
3...LOVE.
MY DEAR JUST CHECK YOURSELF FIRST,,CHECK IF YOU'RE LACKING IN ANY,
TOTAL SUBMISSION, EVEN IF YOU'RE RIGHT AND HE'S WRONG....SUBMIT.
NEXT...TRUST,TRUST,TRUST..
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EVEN IF YOU CAtch him red handed, just trust and finally love tenderly.
try this keys...it works.
let me share this testimony,
sometime back, a cousin of mine came to my house to pick me up for a drink out...
you know ladies nite out i thot....
i followed her and she drove into eko meridein hotel near my house in victoria island.
i asked her why cos i thot we were going to the palm...
she replied that she needed to pick her friends that came from yanki,
so dat they can hang out with us.
We got there and she asked me to come with her to call the girls out.
WE GOT TO THE ROOM AND PRESSED THE BELL AND GUESS WHO OPENED THE DOOR,
MY HUSBAND THAT WAS SUPPOSE TO BE IN ABUJA FOR AN URGENT OFFICIAL ASSIGNMENT sSINCE THE PREVIOUS DAY,
I WAS SHOCKED BUT I JUST LAUGHED AND HUGGED HIM.
I LEFT HIM THERE WITH THE YANKI BABE AND RETURNED HOME TO PREPARE FOR HIS RETURN,I TABLED THE MATTER WITH GOD FIRST AND PRAYED HIM BACK.
HE RETURNED AND I GAVE HIM THE BEST TIME HE EVER HAD,
LOVED HIM THE MORE AND WATCHED HIM CHANGE.
TILL DATE THE MATTER WAS NEVER DISCUSSED.
STRANGE GIRLS ARE NOT ISSUES TO ME, FOR BY HIS GRACE I CAN HANDLE THEM VERY WELL.
INFACT WAT I DID WAS TO CALL FORTH MY RIGHT AND REMAINED GOD OF HIS PROMISES.I PRAYED MY HUSBAND BACK.
AND TODAY,HE'S A MAN OF GOD....
MY SISTER, YOU CAN DO THE SAME,
JUST LOVE HIM ALL THE SAME AND PRAY HIM BACK...
I PROMISE YOU,HE'LL SURELY RETURN.
IT IS WRITTEN,
MANY OF GOD'S DAUGHTER HAVE DONE WELL BUT YOU EXCEL THEM ALL..
BEAUTY IS NO WAHALA AND FAVOUR,CHARM ETC IS DECEIT AND FAKE BUT YOU THAT FEARS THE LORD YOU WILL BE PRAISED ....NO SHAKING.
PROVERBS 31 WOMAN.
THE BIBLE SAYS,
HE THAT FINDS YOU,FINDS LIFE AND ANYONE THAT CAUSE OR TROUBLES YOU LOVES DEATH.
NO SHAKING,THE STRANGE GIRLS ARE PLAYING WITH FIRE.
EVEN IF YOU CAtch him red handed, just trust and finally love tenderly.
try this keys...it works.
let me share this testimony,
sometime back, a cousin of mine came to my house to pick me up for a drink out...
you know ladies nite out i thot....
i followed her and she drove into eko meridein hotel near my house in victoria island.
i asked her why cos i thot we were going to the palm...
she replied that she needed to pick her friends that came from yanki,
so dat they can hang out with us.
We got there and she asked me to come with her to call the girls out.
WE GOT TO THE ROOM AND PRESSED THE BELL AND GUESS WHO OPENED THE DOOR,
MY HUSBAND THAT WAS SUPPOSE TO BE IN ABUJA FOR AN URGENT OFFICIAL ASSIGNMENT sSINCE THE PREVIOUS DAY,
I WAS SHOCKED BUT I JUST LAUGHED AND HUGGED HIM.
I LEFT HIM THERE WITH THE YANKI BABE AND RETURNED HOME TO PREPARE FOR HIS RETURN,I TABLED THE MATTER WITH GOD FIRST AND PRAYED HIM BACK.
HE RETURNED AND I GAVE HIM THE BEST TIME HE EVER HAD,
LOVED HIM THE MORE AND WATCHED HIM CHANGE.
TILL DATE THE MATTER WAS NEVER DISCUSSED.
STRANGE GIRLS ARE NOT ISSUES TO ME, FOR BY HIS GRACE I CAN HANDLE THEM VERY WELL.
INFACT WAT I DID WAS TO CALL FORTH MY RIGHT AND REMAINED GOD OF HIS PROMISES.I PRAYED MY HUSBAND BACK.
AND TODAY,HE'S A MAN OF GOD....
MY SISTER, YOU CAN DO THE SAME,
JUST LOVE HIM ALL THE SAME AND PRAY HIM BACK...
I PROMISE YOU,HE'LL SURELY RETURN.
IT IS WRITTEN,
MANY OF GOD'S DAUGHTER HAVE DONE WELL BUT YOU EXCEL THEM ALL..
BEAUTY IS NO WAHALA AND FAVOUR,CHARM ETC IS DECEIT AND FAKE BUT YOU THAT FEARS THE LORD YOU WILL BE PRAISED ....NO SHAKING.
PROVERBS 31 WOMAN.
THE BIBLE SAYS,
HE THAT FINDS YOU,FINDS LIFE AND ANYONE THAT CAUSE OR TROUBLES YOU LOVES DEATH.
NO SHAKING,THE STRANGE GIRLS ARE PLAYING WITH FIRE.
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Oh well,i think to an extent she is right,the truth is there is no sure formula for these things,if it worked for her,thank God.
but its not a guarantee it would work for another,
i am claiming 1st to put up reply so logically i am first!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
First 5, getting cloooooser! Yeah! Back to comment. Well done for all these posts oh
The lady who showed her husband 'the best time ever' is the one playing with fire - thats howshe will catch STDs or worse!!!! God does not condone adultery.
There is a big place for prayer, submission love and trust in a marriage, but adultery is unacceptable.
i think this is true. but it aint EASY.
Oh my God! I can't believe this! No wonder most Nigerian men think it's okay to cheat on their wives! Because they know they are going to get away scot free! There is no guarantee that this man will not cheat on her again! I believe trust in God is good, but this woman trusting her husband blindly is foolish to the highest level! Will he had forgiven her if she had done the same? Won't she have been sent packing? Yet when he does it its okay? So yes, pray to God but Heaven helps those who helps themselves! Nigerian Women open your eyes!
I respect her for that but don't know if I would have the same strength of character to do the same, if I were put in the same position. Nevertheless, I think our differences in personalities and situations necessitate differences in approach. To each his own.
Wow! She is one strong woman! Not sure what I would have done[since am not a woman and all] but if I were, i am pretty sure doing what she did would bethe last thg on my mind. But love her courage and spirit.
I want to place my hands on this lady's shoulders...and shake her very vigorously! WTH??? Doesnt she know about diseases flying all around? She's just given her husband the licence to cheat to his heart's content, because she'll show him "a good time" to bring him back to her...
"...EVEN IF YOU catch him red handed, just trust and finally love tenderly..." What?!?!?! There's a very thin line btw been submissive and being an "Ode"...
Lord give me strength...! I will continue to pray for my gender...
Okay lemme put it this way...humanly speaking...I Nolimit will almost claw out the man's eyes and it will take the special grace of God to not castrate him and feed him to the dogs (his cousins)...(ok I kid!!! I kid!!!...do I?...lol...go figure!)...but God in Nolimit and God with Nolimit...will take the Bible approach...I totally believe without any doubt that the Bible is the foundation of all things and when the principles in the bible is applied to everyday living...it leads to life...in abundance...It will take the special grace of God o...having said all that, there's no formula to recovery...each individual will have to find what works for her...but I tell ya...say na me o! by the time I'm through with the guy...he won't look at anything in skirt again!!!:-)
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That's crap! I will not be doing any of the suggested tips. If i hear one more person, man or woman saying submit to your husband even if he is wrong, i will scream. That's just stupid.
Yes, ignore ur husband's infidelity and pray him back. Ok! What kind of nonsense advice is that? That's y innocent women are being infected with HIV and other STD's by their philandering husbands.
This is one of the reasons i have a problem with religion. It gives some pple an excuse to have their head in their ass!
Nonsense!
Hmmm is that why I'm still single then??If it is then good!!!
Like Naija Vixen - i want to shake this woman, tell her WTF!so you just hug and give him the best time of his life(btw this is according to her), no questions abt why he wasnt in Abuja, and just TRUST....riiiight, does she know the meaning of the word trust?Or so when he lies and i know its a lie, i should just carry on trusting and give him the time of his life!!! *mcccccheeew*
And this submit, submit, submit...Shona na slave?No!!!!!!
I will pray for her & all those who are like her!!!
I believe in the cane and carrot approach.
There is no way i'm going to let things go without talking about them. he needs to understand that what he did was very wrong and contravenes the marriage code but then all this will be done in love and with prayer.
there are no sure ways to right this wrongs......
the ability to keep a home sadly rests on a woman.......
she makes a success of it...
she is envied....
she doesnt make a success of it...
she is mocked
some women dont care what they have to do to keep their men home
other just cant forgive a man's iniquities.....
but women from time immemorail have been doing exactly that.......just to have a home....
erm did ya all read that he was shocked by her reaction.......he expected a fight......he didnt get one so his guilt drove him to be a better person
in the case of a good fight.....his ego may have got the better of him hence it will drive him to more inforgivable things.......
so i say......whatever works for her.........to each his own.........
i've heard of similar true stories, first of all i believe husbands no that cheating is wrong, arguing, quarrelling and arguing pushes or fuels them. that approach i think is d best, ignore, love, pray and more out of fear of you putting poison in his food, he'll correct his ways.(hehehehehehe)
it takes strength.
I am echoing Waffarian's Laughter.this cannot be real. I just "gave him a a hug and showed him a good time" and " now he is a man of God". Wow this is why they always say like 90% of African men will cheat. Because we have women out there who let stuff like this just go by. If it worked for her "which I don't know but something about this story sounds made up to me" then fine. To each his own. But me, Nope this is not the way out. How is there supposed to be trust when you have EVIDENCE that he is disrespecting your marriage?
She is one strong woman, because the anger in me would not let me.
To each his own!
LMAO @ waffarians laugh!
I think such matters should be treated on a case by case basis. There may not be a hard and fast rule. Afterall, people are different.
One sure thing is for the woman to do her own part, especially submission (in the true sense of the word), and not to forget that there is power in prayer.
I am personally surprised that "the matter" was never discussed....
@ Princessa: I am sure he KNEW what he was doing was wrong right before he did it! At least that much he knows. But i completely agree with you about communication.
Now about the post. I've no idea how I'll handle something like that. But I may never trust him again and without trust we might as well not be married...
What was all that about submit even when you are right business? Does submission mean you are supposed to be brain dead? Na wa o.
I am speechless....seriously, is this for real. Why do women do this!!!!!
@ Princesa “cane and carrot approach”. I’m truly LMAO!
Frankly I doubt if I’d react the way this lady did. I’m happy it worked for her.
But not talk about it??? I don’t think I’d advise ANYONE this way
In this world of STDs and HIV/AIDS???!!! Hmmmmm
No way…is talk sooooo necessary
And that thing about ‘Trust’?
Haba, let’s be realistic
its a tough call tho! personally, i think her reaction may encourage him to repeat such actions. i dont think i cant act like her, cuz communication and talking things through r really important...... trust after such?> dont know yet.
I'm not one of those who think marraige infidelity should be pardoned lightly. No, not at all. As a matter of fact that is a good juncture to brin that marraige to an end.
What the Fuck?! Is this lady kidding me? This is the kind of advice that make women feel worthless, advice that keeps a woman in an emotionally and physically draining marriage.Essentially, the man has no responsibility to bear. Suppressing and ignoring a problem is not the solution.I don't know why women set themselves up for standards they are bound to fail.
Like Rita, I believe that these things differ from case to case. That is not the whole story in my opinion, and the fact that it worked for her does not mean that it will work for someone else. "I JUST LAUGHED AND HUGGED HIM. I LEFT HIM THERE WITH THE YANKI BABE" - BEANS?????????!!!!!!!!!!!! The closest that I can see anyone doing to that is,"Em, honey get your clothes and lets go home." Shikena! If the man come die as dem dey go house nobody go blame d woman.
But whew! SSD. These issues dey put fear for heart oh... Marriage, marriage... maarriage... Why?
The lady replying is in DENIAL. Big Denial.
But if it works for her, more power to her.
The human mind truly is a powerful thing. *smh*
*no wonder those men behave so recklessly, there is no accountability WHATSOEVER! Sheesh!*
HELL NAH! Why do people do things like this. I mean does the bible say a woman must lose all self respect to keep a happy home. Oh my Gosh - this is why I hold on to my "agnostic" beliefs. I simply cannot respect such a woman. This is why men feel as if its their perogative to be unfaithful. Arghhh I am so irritated.
i like ibiluv's take on this....,,
and i really dont know why they didnt atleast discuss the marra...i guess her understanding of her man's personilty made her act the way she did..but, she'z reli strong o..
I guess she is right on the points, but because she has to forgive does not means she should be blind ke? Lord knows if I was in that situation - God forbid and the holy spirit did not interceed pronto, I woudda beat the man REAL GOOD, all the way to the end of the earth first and ask for forgiveness later!!!!! ....
But yeah, they should have at least talked about it, cus what if the man now thinks its his licence to continue cheating, since the wifey won't really mind!?!?!
nah wah oh...
@Sting, I agree with you? To be submissive does not mean one should be foolish...!
I mean the woman did not talk about it with her husband... what type of diseases has he brough home? who knows.. it's not only that, lets even look at the spiritual ramification of him sleeping with all these women and then coming back to sleep with her!!! all sorts of fragmented spirits exchanging bodies.. grrrrr.. shiver!!! submission DOES NOT MEAN BE STUPID... sigh.. .
@ Mogaji & Tenacious i second you!!!!
she prayed and the man became a man of God yeah right!!!LOL!I hope he isnt sleeping with all d female church members!!!LMAO ..this is such a laugh
And if she leaves him, is the next guy immuned to cheating on her?
Here is my take on cheating, all married men, I mean ALL men will cheat. Now there are two groups, one groupd will cheat once and think, what the fuck? My wife is the best thing on earth, I don't want to lose her bcos of this idiot. And then he will never cheat again. The other will cheat and remember he is married to the she-devil and keep cheating.
Hard to believe, but some of us don't get jealous. And yes, you can get STDs in other ways, so stop worrying about your husband fucking a yanki girl and bringing it to you.
Like someone said, if it works for her, then good. If you think slapping him, divorcing him, will make you happier. More grease to ur elbow.
This is too long already.
Leave that matter oh...I for and am slap for there first...then no sex for one month...Then constant shopping with his money to ease the pain...
only then can we start talking of forgiveness and submssion....
I have been reading through all the issues but have never left my comment. Probably because i really will not want to comment just for the sake of commenting. This particular one is touchy because i have experience same. I did not catch red handed but had the inclination which was confirmed through a means i dont want to disclose. I confronted him and he wept, knelt down and asked for my forgiveness. The lady, i will say is afraid, living in denial and usuing the word of God wrongly.We as christians are wise because the Holy Spirit gives wisdom and we are not foolish. To tell us she continued as if nothing happened is to rubbish her faith,because even the bible has a word concerning the situation, she just did not apply wisdom.I forgave mine but being human it took the working of God to get me to accept to forgive him completely. It has always been the woman that holds the marriage together so i guess its one of the price women pay for beig married.
PRAY YOUR HUSBAND BACK AFTER HE HAS BEEN WITH A STRANGE WOMAN?
I'm not saying don't pray, because as a child of God, I believe in prayer. But seeing your husband with a so-called "strange woman," laughing and hugging him and then going back home to "pray him back" and "prepare the table for his return" is really not wise, in my humble opinion.
There is no formula with God. One has to be led by the Holy Spirit to know what to do if any situation like this ever occurs...you can't simply just go home and "pray" him back! Its not juju!
No comment , am still a single Gal, so i leave the rest of you pips to comment on..
I'm sorry but that was completely wack and out of order. Her man cheats, and she hugs him and freaks him well?? Thats stupid b/c another woman can freak him better. CLEARLY him stepping out is not just a physical matter. AND they've never discussed it? This is ridiculous. I just don't understand.
I dont get how she was able to hug him though,she is a calm woman i must say.Hugging him would have been the last thing on my mind!
It worked for her but i doubt it would work for the majority of infidelity cases
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let me laff first...hehehehe
ok...ehn hen...like rita said this is not a copy and paste template that u can just use...if it works for her good for her...but i think she shld have told her husband to do a test and also practice some tough love! sister where is ur self respect??? gave him a good time ke..wetin be that??
I believe in the power of prayer but God also gave us wisdom and doesnt expect us to be mumulicious
Father Lord pls may i never experience such nonsense cuz we (God, hubby and I) all know wat i am capable of doing and we wont want that to happen. Thank God for God in our lives..
it is well...
pray him back? yeah ryt, not lyk God's gonna mess wiv the guy's free will. i think this is b.s but i guess different strokes 4 different folks.
see my wahala wit church pple! which kain nonsense strange woman! tomorrow na, na her own daughter go fit dat name! so make she no dey talk 'strange woman'. after all, d yanki woman no force her husband. infidelity is by mutual consent. & PASTORS DEY CHEAT WELL WELL!!!! & am talking 4rm experience here oh. therefore, someone please slap dis woman out of her denial! i suppose now she is feeling like some superwoman. what a laugh!
anyways sha, each wise wife soon enough learns how to handle her own husband. it's not one size fit all. so, 4 her 2 try 2 sell us her method & pass it off as d anti-cheating potent na wetin? fa-fa-fa foul!
Tufia kwa. Aids is real biko. Give him hug ke??? LOL. I may not fight him or fight the babe, but GIVE HIM A HUG?!?!?!?!?!
You've got 2 be kidding me.
Bullshit...sorry S'delle...
mssstsssthw!
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