Friday, October 31, 2008

TALK TO THE EASIER CREW: AGE DIFFERENCE

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Today's issue was supposed to be up last Friday, but I had to change up the schedule slightly. This one na helele! I have laughed so hard about this but when you really think about it, it is indeed a serious issue for some people. Anyway, please take the time to offer your suggestions in this situation.

SSD:

I have a serious problem. My twin brother and I are 23 years old. We have done so many things together and I thank God for giving me a brother for a best friend.

But, I have a dilemma that involves my twin, Taiye. Taiye has been dating Rebeca. Rebeca is a nice girl, but I do not believe that she is right for him. They met while he worked last year at some accounting firm. She is a secretary there. Rebecca is a white girl originally from a some small English village and I can never understand what she says. May I mention that she is 47 years old with 5 children! Her oldest son is even older than Taiye and myself!!!! My brother kept telling me that they were just friends, but now I know for a fact that they are sleeping with each other. And just so you know, I walked in on them in our apartment.

I do not like this at all. Why is he sleeping with such an old woman? She has bad teeth and horrible skin. I can't stand her. She is in our flat all the time. She even left her kpata[1] in the bathroom. So disgusting!!!! I want to tell our mother but it would probably kill her. She made us swear that we would never date any English women and the knowledge that this woman is almost her age would be devastating. But, that is the only way to stop this nonsense. I think he really likes her, but this has been going on for at least 5 months and I don't want her to try and trap my brother. I also no longer want her in my house, eating my food. She is so fat. Should i talk to my brother first? I don't know if my advice can pass the thing that that woman is giving him.

Women that old should not be sleeping with young boys! Help!!!!!

[1] kpata - underwear

I personally think that love should know no boundaries. But as i was asked to share this with you guys, I will leave my comments out of this.


**shaking my head and laughing as I hit "publish post"**

And, make una help me thank God oh. My baby, The King is 3 today!!!! Will update witha proper post on him tomorrow. I am off to sleep! Mommy loves you King!!!!!

45 comments:

bumight said...

FIRSSSSSSSSSSSSST!!!!

bumight said...

lol, I'm not concerned about the fact that she's white, just that she's 57! I think he should talk to his brother first, he might listen. If all else fails, abegi pray!

someone that has already lived her life ke, nah! the dude has not even started his life, talk about cradle snatching!

on the good side, it might just be a fling, afterall this is not a naija movie or mickey mouse from Excessive Diva's blog

talesandtallies said...

I'm 3rd!unbelievable... lemme go read now.lol

talesandtallies said...

lol... i was actually second!the two posts b4 wer by the same person...

sha, the boy is still twenty three ba... i'll just say he's not sure of what he wants. I think he is just in love with the idea of dating and older woman... a few years down the line it will simply one of those stories of "av been there and done that"

If anything gets too serious, please pray for him... but my evil alter ego kips screaming sabotage, sabotage!lol

Mogaji said...

Oh my gosh! I might actually be in first ten comments wow I should party late more often. Anyway since I have older man syndrome myself I'll say let them be. As long as they are not using each other or in denial about the age difference. Actually she's my hero, if she's able to attract a man that young at her age and as unattractive as the twin bro says then she's got serious game.

simeone said...

utter rubbish..taiye i think needs all the help he can get..spiritual and psychological..if he wont listen to his twin....maybe a trusted male member of the family since the trauma might be too much for their mum.
is this blogville recession true..cos i'm 6th after 2 hours..and this blog is usually a busy bus stop..if u catch ma drift

NoLimit said...

Yeeehawwww!!!!
I made the first ten...okay I've read the post...and my question is seriously...is this a joke?
That boy needs to be beaten blue black and left in a dark cupboard for like 2 days with no food...
See what happens when people are well fed...psheeeewwww

Ok on a more serious note...23 is such a young age to start messing around with an older mummy...PRAY kenny! just PRAY!!!

webround said...

don't tell mumsy.
give Taiye some space & time. this may just be free sex and could wear off. will be difficult for him to get 'trapped' with a 47 year old lady with 5 kids, if he doesn't really care about her.

geisha.song. said...

ok see, am i supposed to take this seriously? really?
lol. it's funny, but its one of those things you cant really do anything about.
it's like, how you can't refuse to work with somebody just because the person smells, or you can't (openly) refuse to use a public bathroom just because an obese person used it before you!

u have to hope he snaps out of it... or jus report him to your mum joo, if that'll make it stop. but wait oh, what if its true love?
AHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lol.

happy birthday TK!!! and happy birthday in advance to you, ss.

FFF said...

awwwwwww TK is 3. wow. see small pickin dem (see as i dey talk, u'd think i was there wen he was born. lol). daz beautiful. na small small oh, Solo. dem go grow leave u & husband 4 house.

dis TTTEC hmm. i kinda thing dis is a fling, & d lady shouldn't worry too much abt it. although, i do think she should put boundaries to how much freedom d woman has. 4 heaven's sake, her brother should understand dat he doesn't live alone & so cannot get on with anything with his girlfriend. if he wants to feed his woman, let him do with with d food himself purchased & cooked himself.

but really, wot can a 23 years old man see in a 57 years old woman? beats me


NB: Solo, i had 2 log on 2 internet explorer 2 read ur site. firefox & opera won't open it.

OluwaDee said...

This 1 pass me o.

4 some reason, I feel this is just a temp thing, n when Taiye is tired he will stop the r'ship.

happy birthday TK.

Standtall said...

I believe in people having the rights to make thier own choice whether bad or good. Taye must have seeing something no one else sees in the woman. What is age anyway?

If Taye were to be a woman and the woman happens to be the man with five kids, will anyone raise an eyebrow?

If it's a mistake, let it be his and he will learn from it

NewLife said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY KING, may you always bring joy to God and your parents amen

kpata? ewww rolling on the floor laughing. I'm just wondering how Taiye crossed that line? I think its obviuous that he's ashamed of it. I rebuke him being trapped o abeg.
Hmm well, Keinde maybe you can find one hot young mama and parade her around him, maybe he might realise what he's missing
And please do talk to him, try to find out where he's coming from

LOL **"shaking my head and laughing as I hit "publish post"**

ShonaVixen said...

Just claiming my spot before m 100th...and to say Happy birthday TK!!!

aloted said...

hehehe...bumight and fff...Rebe is 47 o not 57...ok so really wat difference is 10 years.. Rebe is old is old is old..hehehehe

Kehinde..pray for ur brother o...dunno wat else to say...abi Oyinbo jazz dey...lol...

hopefully Taiye will come ard and realise his folly. its his life abi.

Happy birthday to TK...awww

Omotee! said...

love is blind and it will take over ur mind
- Lauryn Hill.

he is still young, at that age, most guys dont usually know what they are doing or what they want (sorry o, i no dey yab anybody o).

pray for him, kindly talk to him and dont report him, its still his biz and decision. the 47/57 with 5 kids fact will soon open his eyes

PS
happy birthday loveee!!
kiss Oga for me.

UndaCovaSista said...

Happy Birthday TK!!!

It's hard to comment cos the information is incomplete e.g. has Kehinde discussed it with Taiye? does Taiye see a future in the relationship or is it a fling?

If its a fling, it will pass. If the dude sees a future in it, he should have his head examined (i mean that in the nicest possible way)

Ms.O said...

Happy Birthday KING!!!!

lol @ this story!!...I think its just a matter of time. the brother would get over it. But if it seems to bad, talk to him about it.. Communication is always a good solution.

Nefertiti said...

Plese do not tell momsie o! you wan kill the woman? First, I would talk to Taiye, make him see reason. If e no gree, have a male figure he respects discourage him. Then you need to show the old lady pepper. Eg you can hide one leg of her shoe, or flush her underwear down the toilet.

teecity said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TK MANY HAPPY RETURNS.
AND TO U MOMMY IN ADVANCE.

Temite said...

Happy baffday to TK! Many happy returns. Errrr concerning TTEC, me I dont know for both of them o. The Kehinde should not worry so much as it might be a fling and it is really not her concern or her choice concerning whom Taiye chooses to date. However, wetin Taiye dey do wif a woman as old as his mother. Je ne sais pas du tout. do not tell mother, it will only alienate your twin and he is more likely to not come to you if he is really in trouble if he thinks you will go and tell your mother everytime you disapprove of his choices. Afterall its his life. But tell him if you do not feel comfortable with her in your flat all the time, I mean its half yours too. Goodluck o!

Waffarian said...

hisssssssss! abeg go siddon jare! Na today we dey see this kain thing? ehen, maybe na im sugar mummy! me, I no know, but your brother dey definitely get im own from the woman!Your brother eye open well, well. Go and ask your brother what he is getting from her. Na symbiotic relationship be this. No come dey do your brother like innocent man for this matter, like say na the woman dey trap am. Shebi im eye no dey blind?

if no be sugar mummy, if na serious love, ehen, na dat time u suppose dey yarn. But as dem no dey talk marraige, lef matter jare, make dem do wetin dem dey do.

Waffarian said...

oh...happy birthday!!! lots of love to your little king!

bumight said...

happy Birthday KING!!!

note to King: I WILL collect my birthday cake and goodybag, or else all you easier crew are in trouble!

Writefreak said...

i honestly think the lady is too old for him o abegi!

Happy birthday to King

Vera Ezimora said...

Dang!!

I don't care if the woman is black, white of blue. But 5 kids and how old??? Hmmmmmm. I fear o. That being said, luff can be found just about anywhere....

...Love, as they say, is blind.

Andy said...

The King, Happy Birthday!!! Meeen, this na real dilemna for Kenny oooh. I think it will wear off, her skin will get more friable and her teeth will soon drop off! Just hope she does not get pregnant before then (Hmmm, she's 57 - that's very unlikely then)....Adios

Remi, United Kingdom said...

Phew.. made first 30! lol..

Happy Birthday The King!!!! I wish you long life and all of mummy and daddy's love, plus baba God's love too..

Kehinde needs talking to... prayers too. He's probably tripped that at that age, someone is willing too offer what women his age will not.

His twin should not tell their mum, but find a respected and elderly family member or friend they could both talk to.

Have a great weekend.

Much love x

Funms said...

Happy birthday the King!!!! Long life and prosperity........

He should talk to his brother first cuz it seems he's stil denying it. I dont think he's in it for the long haul. dont bring the mother in yet, you would only cause the poor woman unnecessary stres.....

Just...Toluwa said...

happy bday King...

57yrs old, 5 kids...oh hell no!

Error! mistake! i wld never let that relationship last if i were Kenny. I dnt care if Taiye hates me for it. It wld be for his own good. She is done living her life, and Taiye need to be with someone who is just starting out like him.

ShonaVixen said...

57 and dating a young 23yr old....damn...i think Kehinde should sit Taiye down and talk to him..like really talk to him..but who know maybe there's somthing there about the woman regardless of her age and 5 kids that only he sees???smh...

exschoolnerd said...

happy birthday to the little one!!!

about ur blog entry i dont even know what to tell him to do

isha said...

Happy birthday TK!!! Hope he had a wonderful birthday. Yours is tomorrow abi! Happy birthday in advance o.

LOL. What?! This has to be the funniest story we've read. Seriously tho, no one likes a telltale. Take to Taiye first, and see what he has to say. Fine love has no boundaries, but you have to use your head in this thing. She's prolly hit menopause already, there hardly can be any future you know...

Mz. Dee said...

Happy bdayyyyyyyyyy!!!

Shubby Doo said...

happy belated birthday to TK

Shubby Doo said...

Sista Solly happy birthday to you today! stay blessed always

clnmike said...

Old white cougar on the loose, eh?

Lol.

Sounds like a little fling for the both of them, she gets to feels lved and wanted by a younger man and he gets to sow his oats.

Harmless as long as they do not take eacho other seriously.

In fact he can mature quickly for it.

Kin'shar said...

hmmm, this topic is one I need to jump on quickly. I have to say that I am an older lady that always...ALWAYS .... have dated younger men. Not that it is my intentions, but I look so much younger than my age....like by 20 years...so

My husband to be is 10 years younger than me....age does make a difference if you are double the persons age. Hell your brother is probably younger than her children, and yes this does matter. So let your brother be...he may just be having fun, as long as they are not speaking marriage...there is no age limit on just having fun. She can really help him to mature for his next relationship.

Dont stress, take care of yourself

DiAmOnD hawk said...

it's easy for us to judge... we who have not been in such a situation... what truly makes one love another... it's hard to say...
so she's 47 and he's 23... I cant fathom why someone that old is interested in someone so young... but we see it happen... typically in the reverse (guy is much older than the girl).

He needs to voice his concerns to his brother... and have a conversation with his brother instead of holding it all in and at the same time respect his decision...

BlackRose said...

I know they say love is blind bt this is too much..nowadays, love uses walkin stick ooh..
Nyhw, wish ur son(king) the best bday he culd ever wish for + long life and prosperity.

bumight said...

Happy Birthday Solomonsydelle! do I get cake?

Lolia said...

Um....are you kidding me??? Abeg oh, he should find a way to get his brother out of that situation like asap...haba now, how will he be dating someone whose son is older than him? Next thing now is that he's fallen in love and he wants to marry her...abeg oh...I mean I'm such a sucker for love and I believe everyone should do whatever makes them happy but if his twin and his mother, etc are all unhappy will he REALLY be happy? Anyway what can we do? I hope everything works out for all of them....

H2O-works said...

I think Kenny needs to sit back and take a closer look at his brodas past relationships, wat worked and wat didn't...maybe he is scared of getting anyone pregnant for him that he isn't willing to settle with, and he is thinking this woman is 47, with 5 kids, her chances of becoming preggy are very very slim, she prolly doesn't even want any, so if at all she gets preggy she wud not hesistate to remove it...in that case he is using her for the sex, some might say if that is the case well let him enjoy, but truthfully that mentality is hurting our society whether we wanna admit it or not, so rather than put on that "if you can't beat them join them" mentality, we shud be put on the "be the change you wanna see in the world" mentality. With that said, Kenny shud really sit down and talk to his brother, and not just about how he doesn't like her and how she disgusts him, but on wat is truly prompt his brother to go this route...

ciao
....H2O

ShonaVixen said...

Happy Belated Birthday to you Yummy Mummy!!Hope you had a fab day, and well deserved rest!Your weekly posts of TK,Bomboy and TE, bring a smile on my face and also lessons for when i have my own lil ones!!Just want u to know ShonaVixen values you and you're certainly a yummy mummy!!love ya xoxo

NigerianDramaQueen said...

I think he should just let his brother be. One of two things will happen: he will either eventually realize that 5 kids may be more than he can handle, or he will genuinely continue to like her. Either ways, theres not much he can do.