PS- I know "Fatou Djiallo" is not a 'Nigerian' name (to my knowledge). But the reader wanted to remain anonymous and that was the name that came to mind while illustrating her story. =)As someone that was constantly chased by older men, all I can say to you, "Fatou", is that you are probably a very mature young lady that attracts the attention, unwanted as it may be, of older men. Also, the fact that in our email correspondence you expressed that you are extremely blessed with 'boobage' and 'backside' suggests to me that these men cannot help themselves. lol! I'm sorry, guys will chase you based on that, my sista. Don't know what to tell you about that.
Also, I never had "ancient toasters", so to that, I have no words. Anyway, my Easier fam, what do you guys think?
Oya, make una begin yarn....
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Lol! @ the pictures
I was wondering why you decided to give us the back view in the second one. It all became clear as i read on.
Memories! I've had one geriatric suitor/toaster in my life time (one too many, if you ask me!). Ugh, i was repulsed - not at him, because he is human - but at his tactics. At one stage, this guy was practically begging, i kid you not! Of course my friends found it all highly amusing...
Back to the question...is there any thing Fatou can do about it really? I dont think so. But if the attention of these men is scaring off the younger, more suitable suitors, then this suggests she is spending time in these babas company. Maybe eliminate all contact? Just a thought...
1st AND 2nd! Not bad going for an undacova chic, eh?
Oooh...3rd too
Ignore them fatou
lol...
anyway, if she is bootylicious (& bobolicious), den she's most likely 2 attract older men (particularily if she's also plump). Don't know y. but guess daz life. she's got 2 learn 2 live with it, i guess. or get boob/butt reduction surgery, in addition 2 embarking on major weight loss
Where does she meet these older men? Maybe she could start going to places where there are younger guys. This is a tough one though. Are we talking sugar daddy older guys or guys in their 30's?
these illustrations na wa
ok advice....
like a saying in yoruba, flies only fly after people with wounds.
you get wound?
how come ur feedjit thingy shows me as "columbus, ohio" i no dey anywhere near ohio now?!
i hate those things. reduces my stalking.
ehen fatou ignore the nonsense men o jare. pack ur face. they'll get it. :-)
seriously i'm with Darkelcee on this one, "you get wound" with all d plentifull handsome single boys wey dey around,
Fatou, how do u treat boys ur age?
Well for young guys to run away out of fear of the older men, you must be hanging out with the older men!!!
Of how else do this younger guys know you are constantly chased by old men???
Stop dressing with ur assets outside and start wearing tee shirts and jeans...
Oya Solo, where my husband...ur brother/cousin inlaw from Dominica??
just dont encourage them. they claim they know the kind of girls that date older men, as if it's written on foreheads.
anyway,they will always come, just learn not to notice them.
solomonsydelle, i promise to update soon.
hmm, fatou, why are u degracing me like dis? I will tell your papa?
On a less serious note, I am with Afrobabe on this one.
Shock horror! Did I just agree with Afrobabe? What have I become?
Fatou, there are a lot of shameless men roaming the streets, old and young. If you stay far enuf away from the babas they should get the message... and the boys ur age that are running away are prob not serious anyway.
'ef babe'
lol at the illustrations.
Ole girl should keep ignoring this old men o. I know the feeling sha, Im always like why are all this old men hounding me. And for the small small boys wey dey run leave them jare. At 20 you are still young by the time you want to settle down the serious men your age will come.
Lolllllllllllll...
Good advice...really good advice. But the drawings and illustrations are HILARIOUUSSSS!!!!
Okay, from a guy's perspective....The ancient guys will always come, don't forget that! The answer is - you just have to limit your time with them as much as possible. This may be difficult but it is possible. Seeing you with them is prob. what lowers the self-esteem of your younger male scopers.
One more free token, remember that most guys are genetically wired to be "conquerors". They zoom down on conquests after conquests.....you might not appeal to many of them after the "victory" has been claimed. It might be difficult to pick the guilty ones out, but an easy parameter is their track record - and many ancient ones are guilty of that, since they really need young, fresh and curvaceous blood.
Of course, there are always exceptions to the rules but that is the general picture.
Did I make sense?
Why are they chasing you?Because they are trying to make up for their youth when they were too broke/callow/insecure to scope babes of their age.That,and I think you may be making yourself available to/are hanging out with them,intentionally or not.
What to do?Hang out less with the older folks.Make male friends of your age,guys who you can talk to,who you can laugh with.It can be fun,and it softens your image,which is key for approachability.If you have a particular someone in mind, a little proactivity might help.Might:too much and you risk scaring him away,particularly if he's around your age.
And exercise some patience;some of the best guys I know mature late.
Just my two naira's worth:)
Fatou, i dont believe that you should have to change what you wear for any living (or nearly dead) soul. But you do have to stand your ground. if you deeply and truely want older men to stop haggin you, its easy to make them stop.
Next time an old man comes up to you, ask him if he would hook you up with one of his sons. Tell him you like virgins and you like the "thug" type of man. If he looks at you weird, ask him if he knows the rapper called "Crunk Dawg" (there isnt such a person, but hey!) and tell him that you like those type of men. If he says he doesnt have any sons, ask him if he would hook you up with one of his daughters instead. Tell him you have a thing for females. If he says he doesnt have daughters, then tell him you love women but since you cant have his daughter, you wouldnt mind trying his wives. If that still doesnt get them, tell them you are a member of the IWAOFUMA- The International Women Againt Old Hagard Ugly Men Association, and you would like to have his name and number as you would like to report him to the association so his name may be posted in the next newsletter to alert the rest of the younger women of the society that there is a predator on the prowl.What has always worked for me is the rude-approach... i tell these men like it is... it goes something like this
"Hey baby,how are you today?"
"Better than your wife."
No need for long convo... theres no reason for a soon-to-be-in-a-casket sort of man that i'm not even acquainted with to be saying any sort of "hi" to me. Another good one that i used once is:
"i want your number"
"hmm. You make me so sad (i started to cry... im real good at making up crocodile tears). And to think there is a child somewhere that looks up to you as a father and here you are, forgetting that i was only a few years ago, thesame age as that child of yours. Wait, i hope you dont have a daughter sha, because if you do, just remember that the day a old wrinkly hag like you comes up to her, she wont be this bold to say no and yes, all those things you wanted to do to me, he will do to her."
...needless to say, he never spoke to me again.
Solomon, thanks a bunch for dropping by.
hmmmnnnn....
so, afrobabe has twenty-nine and i have thirteen...i will soon fix this minor glitch in the system...
abeg, let me put you this afrobabe on notice o!!!...na lie o!!...you can not be fighting for first position and also posting the most comments...anyone can hold that post but you...have you heard?!...*holds ear for emphasis*...
now, for the matter at hand...lmao at returning truth betold's comments!!!...hilarious...i don't know on this one...you can't really stop people from trying to approach you...but you can stop it from going any further, whether rudely or not...with older men, i tend to the ruder side because i just get disgusted...i am very, very good at feigning deafness...or that i don't speak english...i think the other commenters have given sound advice...so, i bow out...good luck fatou...
...at ssd, nice drawings;-)...
I don't even know what to say....
lol @ Gnaija's on feigning deafness. Babe, you are trips!
Abt the isue at hand, since I moved here I seem to attract older guys and I don't know why. The solution is just tell them off or tell them you a bf. That wat, they will know you are off the market. I don't think you should hide your assets. Be proud of them.
i think she should take advantage of it and get a suga daddy...lol
what afro says is so right, you've got to be hanging with the oldies so much that it scares the youngies.
but i disagree with her on the tees and jeans, those can look sexy too,i wear a hijab sometimes, but it dont stop nothing(not like i have arse like fire and boobs like the drawings..lol)
i get chased by oldies alot, from 16 i was already getting my stuff paid for at check out counters by the pervs around.
or bosses and family friends who from one afternoon of conversation suddenly feel i'm their soul mates. pathetic.
its all about knowing how to handle them, throw respect in the air and be a bitch if they still persist. eventually it'll wear out, and please material things they give no matter how expensive cant vindicate you from regrets there are lots of young bobos to go round and they are willing to spend now, i guess the competition with the oldies is getting to tight.
(i believe by older we talking, 20 yrs and above yeah?)
fatou should watch where she goes to..is it where older man gather??
she should watch how she dresses...that might help
and she shld pray hard for the right man to come.
just by the way- how old is older ?
Whatever happened to age is just a number?
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