WOULD YOU DO THIS TO YOUR CHILD?  

Monday, November 23, 2009



Now, let me confess, I have been laughing uncontrollably for hours on account of this picture and I don't know how to stop laughing. However, I can't help but wonder whether I am wrong for laughing about this but I...cannot...help...it. (Don't stare at the eyes).


And, did they cut that lacefront to specifically match that baby's hairline? LWKMD!!!! I just hope that cutie pie doesn't grow up with hair issues and feel the need to overrely on creamy crack[1] or wigs to achieve her desired hair look.

Although some of you will, like me, find this funny, it does remind me of the fact that so many of my daughter's female classmates in kindergarten already have straightened hair. Personally, I plan on keeping my baby natural for as long as possible and have already started teaching her how to take care of her hair, which is beautiful and healthy just the way it is. However, if and when she is old enough to care for her hair and she wants to get a relaxer, well, that will be her choice, I just hope I would have imparted as much hair knowledge to her so she doesn't suffer through hair problems on account of hair relaxers and other harsh chemicals.

Anyway, would you do this to your child - place a lacefront wig on a teeny little cutesy baby? I know I wouldn't, but I do think this picture is hilarious and every time I get stressed this week, I will simply take a quick glance for some comic relief.


[1] - Creamy Crack = Hair relaxers used to straighten hair.

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TTTEC: A FATHER'S INFIDELITY  

Friday, November 20, 2009

Hello everyone, please take the time to offer some sound advice to this reader. Let's call her, Joke. She is really dealing with an internal conflict and I know that your suggestions will help her come to a final decision.

Thank you.

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My parents have been married for 44 years and are about to celebrate their 45th anniversary. My mother is very excited and my siblings and I are planning a huge party in their honor. However, I have some disturbing information and I am not sure what to do with it.

My father has been secretly cheating on my mother for years. Oddly enough, I was a part of the charade but never knew it. When I was younger, he would always take me with him on drives while he visited various friends. Every Sunday after church, he would take me to visit this lady and her little girl. We would be there for hours and during that time, I would play outside with the little girl.

I only recently realized that this woman was and has been his mistress since I was a child. I won't share how I came to the realization, but I did confront my father about it and all he had to say was that I am too young to understand such things. Mind you, I am 22 years of age.

My mother constantly talks about how good a man my father is and how I should make sure I marry a man like him. If only she knew. But now, given this knowledge, I wonder if I should tell my mother that she has been competing with another woman in her marriage and that there is another child out there.

I just don't think I can plan and attend their anniversary party and watch my father continue to lie to my mother and the entire world. If he really loved her, he wouldn't have cheated on her for so long, so much so that he would have a child that is almost my age, for goodness sake.

I'm hurt and confused. Please, what do you think I should do next?
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CAN I TICKLE YOUR BOOBIES?  

Monday, November 16, 2009

Those were the words uttered by my 4 year old son, TK. Thank goodness he was asking me and not some unsuspecting poor lady. He has always been a butt man, but now, for some reason, he is now infatuated with boobies and constantly seeks to squeeze a few.

Now, let me make it clear, TK is an absolute darling. Whenever I start getting stressed, he will come over and give me a hug and kiss and say "You're okay". He now knows how to make his own bed and believe it or not, he always puts the toilet seat down once he's done. I truly believe he will make someone a very good husband someday, lol! (not that the factors I mentioned are the only one that make a good husband, of course). He wants to learn how to cook and he is very protective of his siblings, in fact, if anyone gets disciplined, he will tell them sorry, then come up to his dad or myself and say "You know, that is not how you talk to little babies. That is not nice."

Cute right?

But this desire of his to "tickle" boobies is quite disturbing and in my opinion, a little unbecoming of a wonderful gentleman. I keep having these visions of him asking some little girl if he can tickle her boobs and my hubby and I getting slapped with a lawsuit! lol! My goodness. Husband tells me that I stress out about the silliest things, and this might be one of them but come on, if you knew a little 4 year old boy that kept asking to "tickle" boobs, tell me you wouldn't worry at least a little bit? Of course, my husband just loves his son's peculiarities to bits. I think its because of all his children, TK not only looks just like him, but behaves like him as well.

So, this is what I am dealing with now, trying to figure out the best way to help my son realize that his infatuation with boob squeezing has a time and a place. Gosh, he clearly likes boobs, but I would like him to realize that someday he will be able to, oh I don't know, enjoy them. With the right girl of course, and that girl ain't me. Oh my, *smh*

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TTTEC: A PROCREATION DILLEMA  

Friday, November 13, 2009

Hey everybody. Today's topic is rather sensitive and well, my suggestions to this reader were rather limited, so please, feel free to share your thoughts. I'm hoping that you guys can help this reader figure out the next step she will take.

Thank you.

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My name is Kate and I have been married for 4 years to my husband, Niyi. Niyi was born and raised in England and we met when I came to the UK to get an education. We fell madly in love and dated for 3 straight years. There were ups and downs but we managed to get through our problems and walked down the aisle in a beautiful wedding surrounded by our family and friends in Lagos.

Our families have been asking for grandchildren, and we have continuously said it will happen when God decides. But, now, it seems that Niyi has decided that children are not a part of our future. I recently mentioned to him that his mother called me and ended the conversation with a half joke that we should not come home for Christmas unless there is a grandchild in my belly. Niyi simply looked at me and said, "well I guess we won't be going home then." I then said to him that it won't be that bad if we got pregnant. Niyi simply laughed and walked into the bedroom. I followed him and asked him why he was laughing only for him to say that he likes the life we have and he doesn't believe that a child would fit into our lifestyle. I was devastated. I have always wanted a child and Niyi never gave me the impression that he did not want children. To now learn that he thinks we should not have children, is troubling. We tried to talk about it, but he refused to budge. I have been a wreck for weeks trying to figure out a solution to this problem but there appears to be none.

I want children. I am now 32 and I know that time is ticking. I am fine with having one child and I thought that it would happen by next year at least. I just don't know how to convince Niyi to change his mind and I know that I will be crushed if years from now, I get to a point were I can no longer have children. I will regret it. What would you do if you were in my shoes?
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